Why You Should Never Say “Giving Up Baby” For Adoption
Are you pregnant and want to put your baby up for adoption in Colorado? If yes, then Adoption Choices of Colorado is the place for you. Do you feel like instead of putting your baby up for adoption you are “giving up” your baby for adoption? Due to you not being able to take care of your baby for different reasons instead of struggling and letting your baby grow in the same environment you decide to put your baby up for Denver, CO adoption. Now as the process proceeds into the adoption you feel like you are giving up on your baby, a usual mental thought in birth mothers.
Well, Adoption Choices of Colorado has four words for you: No, you are not!
As a birth mother, you should not feel as if you are “giving up your child” due to there being no such statement in the option of adoption. Questioning your decision pertaining to adoption is normal, but the main focus is to be healthy mentally and physically for both yourself and your baby. Adoption Choices of Colorado can assist you with doing such because our goal is to protect you and your baby during a vulnerable time.
As an adoption agency in Colorado, Adoption Choices of Colorado has years of experience having been founded in 2002. We serve birth mothers, adoptive parents, and more. Our goal is to assist those that feel like they do not have support or are not given reliable resources from family members, other adoption agencies, or others. Adoption Choices of Colorado is always opened with our availability being 24/7 with help from a well-versed and professional staff.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
I Feel Like I Am Giving My Baby Up For Adoption, Does That Make me a Terrible Birth Mother?
If you are in a toxic environment, are a teenager, a college student, or more those are your most stressful times of life. When you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you are in jeopardy of bringing that child into that unhealthy stressful environment as well. You as a birth mother want to keep your baby, but you know you can’t physically or mentally take care of them due to your state. Instead, you would rather put them with someone else who can love them the way you do and take care of them the way you want to.
So, No. Adoption Choices of Colorado would like to rectify that you are not a terrible birth mother to your baby. You are a noble person that would like the best for your baby and give them offerings that you know that you wouldn’t be able to provide.
During and after your adoption process Adoption Choices of Colorado offers counseling from professionals. They shall help you deal with the emotions that are transpiring within you affecting you mentally, making you feel depressed or more. This is only if you want such help, but Adoption Choices of Colorado doesn’t want to force such an option upon you. This only if it is needed and wanted, but either way Adoption Choices of Colorado will support you!
Can I have a relationship with the adoptive parents of my baby with an open adoption?
At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we provide all three types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed. If you have done research prior to coming to us and would like to do open adoption, that is amazing as well.
An open adoption is a form of adoption when you as the birth mother would have more rights. You have the right to choose the adoptive family that adopts your unborn child after Adoption Choices of Colorado provides you with parent profiles based upon your references. While choosing the adoptive families, information will be revealed their first and last name, home, history, and more.
Closed and semi-open adoption allows you as a birth mother to make such decisions. There shall be more communication between both you and the adoptive parents during the pregnancy and after. When the first meeting there will be a facilitator present and shall still be one if need be.
Though after the baby is born the child shall be in the custody of said adoptive parents once you have revoked your parental rights. You shall still have a relationship with the adoptive parents and your child after such an event. Meaning there will be communication in form of emails, photos, calls, texts, or even visits.
If you are worried about not having a well-rounded relationship with the adoptive parents you chose then during your unexpected pregnancy, it is vital to develop one. Since you have an open adoption, communication is part of the Colorado adoption process and developing even a loving relationship with the adoptive parents can happen. Telling them your worries and wants after the birth of your baby is a way for them to understand what you would like to happen after birth.
Though Adoption Choices of Colorado can not give you a direct answer of a guarantee communication will be held. Due to you giving up your parental rights the adoptive parents are not obligated or required to keep communication or visitation between yourself and baby.
Adoption Choices of Colorado will do everything to make sure this doesn’t take place and you sustain a relationship with the adoptive parents!
What Should I Do if I Am Second Guessing My Adoption Decision During My Adoption Process?
It is normal for you to the second guess putting your baby up for adoption due to it reeling within your mind.
Adoption Choices of Colorado wants you to feel comfortable in your decisions so if questioning it please sit down with your assigned caseworker and tell them such. We can go through the process of terminating the adoption or focusing on what can make you feel more comfortable. It is totally within your hands and if you would like more information about the adoptive we can do that as well.
We are here for anyone in need and can provide answers to questions regarding adoption at any point as long as you contact us! Don’t hesitate there is no judgment here at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Imani Agbionu is a recent graduate from George Mason University, earning her Bachelor of Science in Marketing. With a history in writing for her former university’s online publication, Her Campus, she aspires to become a successful journalist who can provide for herself and her family. She is from Washington, DC, where she has lived her whole life, but one day wants to move to experience and call another state home. Her mother is from Washington, DC, and her father is from Nigeria, part of the Igbo tribe. As an introvert, she loves streaming platforms, with her favorites being HBO Max, Netflix, and Disney+. Unfortunately, she can’t pick one due to all playing a vital role in her life on a daily basis. She enjoys reading, with her favorite book being The Shining by Stephen King, which she sees as unusual since she is a fearful person that avoids horror at all costs. Listening to music is a vital mechanism that helps her stay calm and deal with her anxiety at times.
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Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!