Why are Men Choosing Surrogacy in Colorado and How Can You Help?
For a long time, single people or people in same-sex relationships had to face the possibility of giving up their dreams of becoming parents. Even for those considering adoption, in many states, the law was not on their side. Thankfully, outdated ideas are changing, and the laws are updating with them. Surrogacy has further advanced that shift in thinking. Through the amazing gift of surrogacy, singles and LGBTQ+ couples are among those able to build families and raise children of their own. As the popularity of surrogacy increases in Colorado, more and more men are choosing fatherhood through surrogacy. Here’s how you, as a potential Colorado surrogate mom, can help. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado welcomes working with intended parents of many varied backgrounds. We’re delighted to see more men choosing fatherhood through gestational surrogacy, and we look forward to helping these men find a surrogate to help them realize their dreams of fatherhood.
If you or someone you know is interested in becoming a surrogate, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado.
Why are Men Choosing Surrogacy to Become Fathers?
People often talk about the ticking of a woman’s biological clock when she begins dreaming of motherhood. Men have biological clocks that are every bit as real as a woman’s. Many men have a desire to raise children and watch them grow. Like many parents, these men may feel they have a window of time in which they’re both old enough and well-established financially enough to raise a child but still young enough to have the physical stamina to do so. For LGBTQ+ couples or single men, the options for fatherhood can feel quite limited fairly quickly.
Why Choose Gestational Surrogacy? Why not Adopt?
Adoption is a wonderful way to build a family. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado helps many birth parents place children with loving adoptive families every day. Adoption and surrogacy each have pros and cons worth considering. Here are a few reasons why an intended father might choose gestational surrogacy over adoption to build his family.
- Desire for a genetic connection with his child. With gestational surrogacy, a man can use his own sperm to fertilize a donor egg. This process is done in a laboratory. After fertilization, the embryo will then be transferred to the surrogate mother via in vitro fertilization. As a result, the baby will carry genetic traits from his or her father.
- Fewer Genetic Unknowns. Many intended parents feel like adoption might be a little bit like playing genetics roulette. It’s difficult to know about what mental health issues or genetic defects might be lurking in the DNA of a stranger, even if the birth parents try to provide a comprehensive medical background. With gestational surrogacy giving the father a genetic connection, he will know more of the child’s medical history and heritage than he might through adoption.
- Intended parents are rightful parents both biologically and legally. No termination of parental rights paperwork is required. There is no chance of the biological parents changing their minds and calling off the agreement.
- Ability to raise a child from birth. While many adoption plans do include the adoptive family being at the hospital for the baby’s birth, it’s not always an option. Even when it is, since no legal paperwork is signed until after the birth, the birth mother is the child’s legal guardian at the time of birth, making it a very different experience. With gestational surrogacy, many times, the baby’s parent or parents are able to be in the delivery room with the surrogate during the birth and are able to hold their baby immediately.
- Clear parenting role. The most popular adoption plan today is open adoption, in which the birth mother or birth parents have contact with the adoptive family and the child post-adoption. For many families, this is a wonderful arrangement that usually benefits the adoptee tremendously. But for some people, concerns that co-parenting issues or confusion might arise in this kind of arrangement form a strong point in favor of surrogacy over adoption.
- Potential shorter timeframe. While in many states, the laws that once made it difficult or impossible for single men or LGBTQ+ couples to adopt have changed, it often still takes longer for people in those situations to adopt. When designing their adoption plans, most birth mothers choose straight, married couples to parent their child, thereby pushing single parents and same-sex couples to the back of the line. With surrogacy, the process begins as soon as Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado can connect the intended parent or parents with a gestational surrogate match.
Being a Colorado Surrogate Mom is the Opportunity to Be a Hero for a Single Father or LGBTQ+ Couple Seeking Fatherhood.
Through the surrogacy process, more and more men are becoming fathers. Through this amazing gift, a single man doesn’t have to wait urgently, hoping for the “right” partner to come along. An LGBTQ+ couple doesn’t have to give up the dream of raising their own biological children. To parents like these, you, as the surrogate mother who makes the dream of having a family possible, are a hero.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado wants to help more intended parents realize their dream of building a family. If you’re considering becoming a surrogate, contact us today. One of our professionals can answer your questions about how surrogacy works and tell you what you need to know to become a surrogate and help build more families in Colorado.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: After graduating from the University of Michigan with a degree in Education, majoring in English and Social Sciences, Brianne Davis has spent her adult life as an educator; first in the public schools, later through martial arts. Her ability to convey difficult concepts, navigate varied learning styles, and always keep it interesting defined her reputation as an impactful instructor. Many of her early published blogs centered on the goal of helping other instructors effectively teach children for whom learning is a struggle. Once an empty nester, she committed to sitting in traffic less and writing more. With those goals in mind, she, along with her husband and dogs, packed up, sold their family home and moved to the banks of the Columbia River in Central Washington’s wine country, where the pace of life is slower and the sun shines brighter. Realizing in our modern age, more of us turn to the internet for information than ever before, Brianne, now dedicates her time to educating others through blog writing.
As a life-long information junkie, Brianne enjoys taking deep dives into new topics, then condensing them in an interesting way to convey valuable information in a relatively short amount of space. Once her career, Brazilian jiu-jitsu, and mixed martial arts remain hobbies, along with boating, reading, and traveling.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!