Who is a Typical Birth Mother in Colorado?

The best part about this question is that there is no right answer. Birth mothers come in all different shapes and sizes, and from all different walks of life. Their common bond is that they’ve made the difficult choice to place their child for adoption. Adoption Choices of Colorado embraces birth mothers of every type and works with them to advance and excel their lives during the adoption process in Colorado, and in post placement. 

Married or Unmarried Women Who Choose Adoption

A preconceived idea or assumption that some people may make about birth mothers is that they are single women. This can sometimes hold true, and a birth mother may choose to place a child for adoption because she feels like she cannot provide them with the best life possible if she’s on her own. However, this is not always the case, and that’s important to consider when thinking about what a typical birth mother looks like. Some birth mothers have children of their own, from a marriage or a long-term relationship. Yet, just because they have that relationship as a part of their lives, doesn’t mean that they will be able to provide a child with the loving home that it deserves. That’s perfectly okay, and it should be normalized. 

Military Women Who Choose Adoption

Finding yourself unexpectedly pregnant while serving in the military can be jarring. You have a duty to the United States military, but you also have a responsibility to the child you’re carrying. Many military branches allow officers a period of deferral in the wake of a pregnancy. 

If you are considering placing the child for adoption, it is necessary that you return to the United States to give birth and to facilitate the adoption processes. We are happy to work with active members of the military. We understand the sacrifices that are made by members of the service, and we hold them in the highest regard. However, if the birth mother in question feels that the child’s needs will be better met and supported with an adoptive family, we want to do our best to support that. 

Teen/Younger Women Who Choose Adoption

Another common trope that comes to people’s minds when considering what a typical birth mother looks like is young or teenaged. This has been played up constantly in the media, with books and movies that have oversatured our mind with images of young girls who find themselves pregnant, and feeling like they are alone. Some of this is dramatized television. But, for the girls that this rings true for, just know you’re not alone. If you’re not even a fully-established adult yet, it’s perfectly understandable that you’d have to learn to take care of yourself before taking care of a child. 

Adoption is a loving response to an unplanned pregnancy. It allows you to ensure that your baby will have a great future, with a wonderful adoptive family to care for them. It also allows yourself the opportunity to move on with your own life, and elevate your own happiness beyond the adoptee that you placed. 

Homeless Women Who Choose Adoption

If a woman finds herself with an unplanned pregnancy and they are also experiencing homelessness, adoption may be a viable option for them. It may be very difficult to care for a child while being homeless, because it is difficult to establish a social safety net for yourself.  There isn’t a great deal of stability in that life, and it may be in the best interest of you and the child to strive for safer options and ways of living. We don’t underestimate the difficulty of this.That is why, Adoption Choices of Colorado is more than willing to help you find low-income housing during your pregnancy and help support you with rent. An unexpected pregnancy would impact a homeless birth mother at a disproportionate rate, so that reality must be acknowledged in any attempt to define “birth mothers.”

Addicted Women Who Choose Adoption

This is another trope. Struggling with an addiction predisposes a difficulty with managing other parts of life, making an unexpected pregnancy far more likely. If a birth mother is pregnant and addicted, she should aim to seek treatment immediately. 

We support birth mothers fully in this pursuit, because it is for the betterment of them and the child. As a birth mother, you still get full autonomy over the child’s future with an adoptive family, and get to facilitate the adoption process to the best of your ability. 

Stable and Established Women Who Choose Adoption

Something that is forgotten is that birth mothers can often be stable and established members of society, who simply don’t envision motherhood as a part of their lives. They are not willing to mother a child and, as such, they are not able. Thus, they decide that their child will be better off with a loving adoptive family, because they’re are many who are eager to parent. 

Birth Mothers are Atypical 

Atypical is defined as being not representative of a type, group, or class. This is the perfect word to describe birth mothers because they aren’t either. They are groups of women, who may be as different as different could be, but are like minded in their choice to separate from the child they carried, because they believe that they can find a better home with an adoptive family. They can come from different backgrounds

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

Meet the Author: Katherine Burns is a journalism student at Loyola University Maryland with plans to pursue a career in the news and magazine industries. With over three years of experience writing for the Greyhound Newspaper at Loyola, Katherine specializes in Op-eds. However, she has recently branched out to cover a variety of topics, including education and sports journalism. She also has ample experience with travel blogging. 

Katherine has conducted a variety of interviews in her time at Loyola and has displayed her stories through differing forms of media. In addition to her studies at Loyola, Katherine spent the fall of 2019 studying communications at the American University of Paris.To learn more about Katherine, be sure to check her out on social media.

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