Which is the Right Adoptive Family for Me?

By Edward Harding

If you are pregnant and considering adoption, chances are you’ll be wondering how to best find the adoptive family for your child. Fortunately, It’s never been a better time to choose Adoption in Colorado. We are a judgment-free, private adoption agency licensed in Colorado. We understand that placing a baby for adoption can be hard. You may even be wrestling with strong feelings of guilt or anxiety surrounding where your child will end up. These are certainly valid concerns. Every parent wants the best for their child.         

At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we believe that the best way to combat these feelings is through education and shared experience. We’ve served hundreds of birth mothers across the state and have gathered some testimonies from them to aid your decision. 

If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.

Adoptive Families Hoping to Adopt in Colorado   

The world is a diverse place. Therefore, there are many potential families that you may consider as a candidate to raise your child. First, consider what kind of home environment you wish them to have. Is diversity important to you? What about potential siblings? Would you like your child to have fellow children to interact with? These are just some of the many questions you should consider when considering narrowing the pool of applicants and profiles. 

Here are some of the most common types of families that various adoption agencies typically accept.   

  • Traditional family- Mother\ Father  
  • Transracial family
  • Transcultural family
  • LGBTQ+ family 
  • Multiracial family
  • Military family
  • Single Parent                 

How to Find a Match During the Adoption Process

The matching process begins after you construct an adoption plan with a professional. This will outline your specific desires for potential families. Potential families will also have constructed a plan during the home study process. Home studies are collaborative informational sessions conducted by the agency. The adoptive family will share their reasons for seeking adoption and their preferences while providing information about themselves to the agency. This information will then be collected into a profile of the waiting family. After comparing your own preferences to potential applicants, your professional will then deduce suitable applicants for your deliberation. 

Once you’ve been presented with profiles, it’s up to you whether you would like to move forward. Don’t feel pressured to choose any of the options. You may find that you would like to wait for another potential applicant that better aligns with your needs. Alternatively, you can also choose multiple families to match with and learn more about each before making a final decision. You may even find a family more appealing after meeting with them face to face. 

However, you may also choose strictly to decide based on profiles alone. Once you choose a family to match, your own profile will be exchanged with them, and they will be informed of your decision.   

How can Open Adoption make my decision easier?   

Adoption Choices of Colorado encourages open adoption between birth mothers and adoptive parents. This type of adoption allows for as much contact between both parties as possible. You can meet the family and stay in contact with your child and parents after placement. Open adoption allows you to still remain a part of your child’s life even after relinquishing care. Additionally, it helps you build personal trust in your chosen adoptive family. 

The extent of open adoption is usually mutually agreed upon by all parties involved. The adoptive agency does not enforce the criteria. However, if you would like to guarantee continued contact, the state of Colorado can issue a Post Placement Contact Agreement. This ensures continued contact under penalty of law.                          

How do birth mothers feel about choosing adoption in Colorado? 

If you still have reservations about choosing Adoption Colorado, then listen to some of the testimonies from birth mothers who have worked with our Kansas branch. Birth mother, Jessica, commented on her decision to choose an openly gay couple as her adoptive family. She enjoyed allowing them to be parents. Without adoption, they would never have that chance. Seeing others happy allowed her to better process the grief associated with adoption. 

Birth mother, Amber, echoed this opinion. Her adoptive family had difficulty conceiving children of their own. However, through adoption, Amber alleviated this pain while providing a happy life for her son. Amber also stressed the importance of thinking about your decision thoroughly beforehand. “Make sure you’re comfortable with it. That way, you don’t have any regrets in the end. You’ll know that you did the right thing, and it kind of just feels right in your heart.”

This isn’t to say that your journey won’t be difficult. Birth mother, Cassie, discussed many of the internal struggles she still deals with in her day-to-day life. For example, despite knowing that she made the right choice, it still causes her pain that she is not able to provide for her sons.               

Hopefully, learning about the journeys of others helped you to feel more confident in your own decisions. Adoption Choices of Colorado believes that openness for all parties is key to making the adoption process as painless as possible. Therefore, we offer post-placement counseling services to all birth mothers at any stage of the adoption process. These programs can help you to deal with internal grief if desired by sharing experiences with others.         

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

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