What to Look for in an Adoptive Family

By Edward Harding

Choosing the right adoptive family can be difficult in the adoption process. The number of options to consider can be overwhelming. You might need clarification on what key aspects to consider when choosing the right adoptive family and home for your child. That is one of the many ways our adoption specialists can help!

At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we want you to feel confident in your final decisions. Having little to no regrets can help you better deal with the feeling of loss from giving up a baby for adoption. We have collected a list of some of the most important criteria for choosing an adoptive family. Hopefully, this can help you sort through our waiting families and narrow down the right adoptive family for your child.

If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.

Consider the type of Adoption You Want

The first thing that you’ll want to look for in an adoptive family is just what kind of adoption you are both searching for. Think about what relationship, if any, you would like to have with your child or the adoptive family post-placement.

  • Open Adoption – This is the most open level of adoption there is. Here you are able to receive regular updates from the adoptive family about how your baby is developing. You will even be able to schedule visits with your child. All of this will be discussed before adoption finalization.
  • Semi-open adoption – This is considered a middle ground. Relationships remain somewhat structured, and interaction is mostly infrequent but possible. Most communication between the birth parents and the adoptive family is done via a third party. In most cases, this would be the adoption agency.
  • Closed Adoption- With a closed adoption, strict rules apply. There is no communication or updates between you and the adoptive family. The only information that they would receive about you is your medical history.

Next, compare your needs with those of the waiting families and choose accordingly based on your common desires. Making your first criteria quite specific will instantly help to cut down options and save time.

Important Factors for Colorado Adoption     

If you’re pregnant and considering choosing adoption in Colorado, these are some other important considerations.

  • Location- Do you want the family to live within your state? Is Interstate an option? Also, reflect upon whether an urban, suburban, or rural home life would be appropriate.
  • Family composition- Would you be opposed to families that have other children, either adopted or biological?
  • Diversity and culture- Ask yourself if you would be open to choosing a family that may not share your race, ethnicity, or sexuality.
  • Religion- If you are a strong practitioner of a religious ideology, it may be important that your child be raised within a particular denomination. Alternatively, you might not consider religion to be important. Maybe you would not wish your child to be a part of a religious household. Finally, you might find you have no preference either way and would be open to any active or inactive religious practice within adoptive families.
  • Profession- Some adoptive families have careers that may drastically change home life. For example, being part of the military or certain business fields may require constant relocation. Additionally, if both parents have jobs, this may limit the amount of time spent with the child.
  • Morals or Ideals- By far the most complex and difficult to define. Nonetheless, this is still worth pondering. Think about how you were raised. What kinds of things did you like and dislike about your own family’s parenting style? Perhaps there are important lessons you would like to pass on to your child. Look for common threads among your family profiles.

Match with the Adoptive Family That Feels Right  

 Adoption Choices of Colorado evaluates each family beforehand through the use of a home study and vouches for the suitability of every candidate. We believe in full transparency with all our clients. Adoption Colorado conducts extensive background checks and interviews to ensure the validity of the information. Don’t ever feel nervous about requesting additional information about any of your matching families. Remember, this is your adoption planPlacing your baby for adoption does not mean you immediately give up all control.

Even after spending time deliberating over profiles, sometimes the best thing you can do is to meet face to face. Although home studies are quite thorough, there is a limit to what you can gain from a collection of files. Birth mothers who choose adoption in Colorado often reference a “gut feeling” developed after communicating with their future adoptive family. If you are interested in open adoption. We encourage you to meet directly with as many families as possible. It often provides the final stimulus needed for many birth mothers to hone in on a final choice.

Now that you understand more about the matching process, combat your unplanned pregnancy by constructing a list of personal criteria. It’s always a good idea to be prepared even before your initial meeting with a counselor. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

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