What is Closed Adoption?
The word “closed” can seem very harsh. While it is certainly associated with endings, endings do not always have to be bad. For instance, during the adoption process, one of the most important choices you will face as a birth mother revolves around visitation rights to potentially see your child, if you choose to do so. Despite the implication of there potentially being an ending of sorts on your horizon, Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to show you that all ends are beginnings and can even be positive occurrences.
What Should I Know about the Different Types of Adoption?
There are typically three types of adoption. You have the option of an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, and a closed adoption. Think of these choices as labels that describe the relationship you choose to have with your child and, by extension, your child’s adoptive family.
How Would a Closed Adoption Benefit Me?
A closed adoption, as you may have assumed, refers to a situation where you, as the birth mother, would not choose to leave a more immediate door open to see your child. That does sound pretty dismal and stressful, but it may be the right choice for you. It just may be that a separation is necessary in order to allow your child and yourself to grow into the people you are meant to be.
There may be a day in the future where your child wishes to reunite with you and has the authority to do so, but there is no guarantee. A closed adoption should likely come with the expectation that parting ways is permanent.
How can I Ease My Mind about Closed Adoption?
Before your mind starts racing and you think about all the negative associations that tie together words like “closed,” “ending,” and “permanent,” please take the time to consider the positive alternatives. It’s basically guaranteed that a birth mother entering the adoption process is only doing so out of love for her child. Any type of adoption will likely be rough on you, but you can know in your heart that you are doing the right thing, especially if you don’t feel ready to take care of your child or are physically not able to at this time.
Your health and wellbeing are also a big factor in all of this. If you cannot raise a child at this time, you might not be able to make constant house calls for a child at this time either — that is completely okay. Every adoption process decision is a balance between your needs and the needs of your child. If parting ways will set you on the right path, the path you deserve, then it is okay to select a closed adoption.
What Other Good Things can Come from Closed Adoption as a Whole?
Outside of just maybe being the right decision for you and your child, this adoption type can also potentially help an adoptive family. Not everyone can have a child and many people looking to expand and share their love might turn to adoption to raise someone as their own. While open and semi-open adoptions do allow for shared communication, it might be better for a new parent or parents to have a fresh start — the kind that comes with a closed adoption.
As you can likely imagine, while having both birth and adoptive parents around can be amazing, it is also a lot of work that some people might not be prepared to handle. So, in this way, a closed adoption can allow everyone time to figure things out on their own terms, which is a really beautiful thing. A byproduct of you choosing a closed adoption may just mean giving an adoptive family the chance they have always wanted to raise a human being on their own.
How Do I Take My First Step into the Adoption Process?
This choice also is not the end of everything — just one chapter in your life. All ends are beginnings, meaning that your new path will set you on many adventures. The adoption process is not the easiest thing in the world, but there are joyful things that can come out of it. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help you every step of the way with counseling, support, and care. We will make sure that whatever you decide going forward, it is made with the utmost love and consideration. You and your child deserve the brightest future.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Nathan Dyer is a university student majoring in Communication Arts with a radio/TV/film focus. He enjoys writing professionally and dealing with hands-on problems in real-world scenarios. Among his hobbies is hiking, which always encourages him to explore new places. He looks forward to crafting written materials in the future that serve to help people from all walks of life.