What A Surrogate May Expect Post-Delivery
Surrogacy provides families with the one thing they’ve desired the most, a child. Mothers who have tried everything to get pregnant only to be told they cannot carry, or worse, mothers who have lost a baby due to multiple miscarriages or stillbirths. Becoming a surrogate mother is a selfless choice. You are, essentially, dedicating a year or more of your life and body to another family. To learn more about becoming a surrogate mother contact us at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado.
How Does Surrogacy Work?
Unsure about how the whole Colorado surrogacy processworks? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Gestational carrying includes two different medical procedures to produce a pregnancy and may require multiple rounds if the parents want to do so until it works.
Gestational carriers do not donate eggs. Instead, either the mother’s egg or a donated egg will be fertilized in the fertility clinic then placed in your uterus via IVF.
Once IVF is complete, the intended parents will await a positive pregnancy test. If it doesn’t take on the first try, the parents may want to do multiple rounds or place multiple embryos. This is discussed during interviews and, for the most part, written into the contract you’ll sign before beginning the procedures.
How To Become A Surrogate
There are multiple qualifications you must have in order to become a surrogate mother. You must be between the ages of 21-32, it can vary up to 35 depending on the agency, and you must have given birth to a child. The child has to be in your custody, too. Among those are the medical requirements such as having a prior healthy pregnancy and normal birth. Any medical conditions exacerbated by pregnancy will disqualify you.
If you pass the medical and psychological exams after submitting your application, you will be contacted and given the green light. This is when your surrogate professional will begin to match you with potential parents. First, interviews will be conducted, and once you find a match, the implantation procedures will begin.
After Birth For Surrogate Mothers
Depending on what the parents want, you may spend time with the baby after delivery. Although the parents will have immediate custody of their child, they may want you to meet and greet the little life you held for nine months. Some surrogate mothers have pictures taken with the baby or are involved in newborn photo shoots with the parents. Other surrogate mothers prefer to have their time alone, and parents want to bond with their child after birth. Everything regarding the birth and afterward will be discussed and agreed upon between you and the awaiting parents.
Emotional Stress of the Surrogacy Process
Part of becoming a surrogate mother understand what emotional ups and downs can come with pregnancy. Hence, the requirement of having been pregnant and given birth to your own child. Though you know from the beginning, the child is not yours, sometimes the nature of wanting to care for the child kicks in. It can be hard for some surrogate mothers not to want to tend to the child or struggle with separation.
This is not the case for everyone, and there are social workers ready to help if you are struggling mentally or emotionally. Talking it out with a professional is extremely helpful and can send you back on a healthy path rather than holding the emotions in. Surrogate mothers can feel guilty for having these feelings too. Just because you know the child is not yours in your head, hormones can create extreme emotions that are uncontrolled.
Before you look into Colorado surrogacy, be aware that not all surrogate mothers are able to big goodbye to the child and feel complete. This is something you can speak to your surrogate professional about before you begin the application.
Relationships With The Parents and Baby
This depends on the parents as they are the ones setting the rules. Some parents want to keep the surrogate mother in their lives just to drop in and give updates on the baby. Many parents are so grateful to surrogate mothers they want to keep in touch as friends. If they want more children, they may contact you again if you’re up for another Colorado surrogacy. Sometimes these can be life-long friendships that last decades. You can watch the child grow and flourish with their family.
Have more questions about Colorado surrogacy and what it entails? Contact us at Surrogacy Choices for more information. We’d love to help you along in this journey, answer all your questions, and just be a pillar of support during this time.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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