Welcome to the World of Adoption
By Bruce Kong
Considering that you are reading this blog now means you are not giving up. Adoption may be one of the most incredible options that birth mothers can do when they find that raising a child may be too much for them. It’s hard going through an unexpected pregnancy, and at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we share empathy in your struggle. As someone who is pregnant and considering adoption, it is only fair to welcome you to the world of adoption. We will help you define the term “adoption,” the three levels of openness of adoption, and a few pros and cons that birth mothers might consider when choosing to place their baby for adoption. It’s never too late to consider a Colorado Adoption, and while it may seem intimidating at first, you are doing something special for the adopting family and your child.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
What is Adoption?
At the first sound of this word, we are all familiar with what it is and can draw a clear-cut image of the word adoption when we hear it. But at times, we find it difficult to use words to define “Adoption.” So, let’s get to the basics of defining words. Adoption is the legal process where birth parents terminate their parental rights to their child, which is then granted to the adoptive parent.
The key thing to remember is that once you have adopted your child into another family, they have legal rights over the child. But that does not mean you lose connection or communication with them.
Three Levels of Openness When Choosing Adoption
According to the Colorado Adoption Laws and even the universal adoption laws, there are ongoing levels of communication between the birth parent and the adoptive parents. As the birth mother, you get to choose between three levels of openness during the Adoption Process:
- Open Adoption: Open Adoptions share information and have contact with each other. This includes phone numbers, emails, and addresses. It allows for the two parties to keep I’m efficient communication so that the outcome and adoption process for the adoptee will run smoothly.
- Semi-open Adoption: These are associated with open adoptions but with a slight distinction. Semi-open adoptions communicate effectively through both parties, but the difference is that the adoption agency or professional is the middleman who relays messages from one party to the other. And the types of communication is the same as adoptions (phone, email, letters).
- Closed Adoption: This is a form of communication in which both parties have no form of communication with each other. Everything remains confidential, and the result usually concludes in the birth mother losing connection with her child.
Pros of Adoption
- A child receives a life of opportunity, but this does not mean that your child would not have an opportunity if you decided to keep them.
- As the birth mother, you would receive support and a new start after the Adoption Process. Financial assistance along with emotional support will be available to birth mothers! A birth mother scholarship program is available for birth mothers striving to pursue an education.
- One of the other important pros of adoption is that you are giving adoptive parents a second chance at becoming a family. At times, most couples cannot have children: the more formal term for this is “infertile.” We will partner with you to help make the adoptive parent’s dreams come true!
Cons of Adoption
- After the adoption is over and you’ve said goodbye to your child, there is no doubt that you will experience grief. But it is completely normal for a birth mother to go through this process, and unfortunately, you won’t be able to avoid it. But don’t worry. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help you through that process!
- A lot of the time, birth mothers have stated that going home alone after giving birth is the worst experience. Knowing that your child is living a better life is one thing; coming home without your child is a different feeling.
Still Unsure if Adoption is Right for You?
At the end of the day, the choice is yours. Putting up your child for adoption is never an easy choice: the emotional challenges that come with it are far more valuable than the financial challenges.
You will need a moment to reflect on your choice and consult a professional when appropriate. Remember, Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to support you. Know that you are never alone in your journey.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.