4 Ways to Handle the New Year After an Adoption in Colorado
By Bruce Kong
First, congratulations must be at hand. Because you’ve done something that not every birth mother could ever do: you adopted your child to another family. It wasn’t easy, but you did it and if it is not enough, thank you for such a selfless and courageous act. When you were Pregnant and Considering Adoption, it was probably the last thing on your mind, and a Colorado Adoption didn’t seem appealing at the time. However, don’t ever think that because you adopted your child to a different family does not mean you would have been an incompetent mother. Your child would have loved you, and you would have loved them.
Let’s address the elephant in the room. When you’ve finished the Adoption Process with Adoption Agencies in Colorado, or more specifically, a Denver Adoption Agency, the aftermath of the adoption is usually the hardest. With the New Year coming around the corner, it will be hard to reflect on the past year. All of this negative energy and emotion will swarm over you like a plague. But maybe that’s why it’s called the New Year. It is something for you to look forward to; a bright, elevated future that will show promises of joy and support. The past is the past, and while it may stick with you, it does not define who you are.
Here at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we are here to support you and provide you with resources that will benefit you. And there are several ways in which you can find support.
Turn to Family and Friends
The Colorado Adoption was a long and tedious process, and that is not an exaggeration. But once it is finished, your emotions may run amuck and affect your mental health. Family and friends are great sources to turn to when it comes to venting your thoughts. They will offer a listening ear, keep an open mind, and offer constructive advice when it’s appropriate. The new year is the perfect time to amend any broken relationships or construct stronger relationships with your friends and family. Your Unplanned Pregnancy may have caught them by surprise, but one thing is certain – it will not drive them away.
Seek Out an Adoption Counselor
There is no shame in seeking out an adoption counselor; you are doing yourself a favor by talking to one. But don’t think of them as counselors: think of them as life coaches too. They are there to support you in your physical and emotional needs and will be available to discuss any topics you want to talk about. Use this vulnerable time in the Adoption Plan to see an adoption counselor and vent your heart out.
Create a Plan to Spend Time with your Child and the Adoptive Family
This one might be stretching it a little, but it doesn’t hurt to try. One of the few things that birth mothers would appreciate is receiving updates about their children. And while it’s nice to see pictures of how they are growing and the success the child will have, it’s nice to spend quality time too. And this doesn’t need to be a big event either. It can be something small like a gathering or eating dinner together. If you’re feeling spontaneous, we recommend taking a trip together, but that one can wait.
Go Join Birth Mother Support Groups
Next to an adoption counselor or friends and families, birth mother support groups are one of the best choices you could ever make. These groups are for birth mothers who have struggled with the same emotions as you. They allow the participants to attend and share their struggles, talk about hardships they are dealing with, and the negative emotions they’re suffering with.
A Final Message to You for the New Year
You are a strong and resilient individual who deserves the spotlight. Placing your Baby for Adoption was an option that is never easy, but you managed to make it work and overcame the hardships of the process. Remember that Adoption Choices of Colorado is here for you 24/7, and we will not rest until we take care of you.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.