Unwrapping Holiday Joy and Grief for Birth Parents in Colorado

By Bruce Kong

December is the month of a memorable holiday: Christmas. It’s a time for people to share gifts, break bread, or enjoy each other’s company; you are someone special who will do something unforgettable for a family. You’re Pregnant and Considering Adoption. A Colorado Adoption was the first thing you looked up, and you’ve come to the right people. This Denver Adoption Agency will ensure you are taken care of and will not stop working for the care of your baby. It’s hard knowing that with the holiday just around the corner, you won’t be able to buy a gift or share a meal with your child. We understand the grief you are experiencing before and after your birth. Below is a list of grief and joys during and after a Colorado Adoption. But we’ll save the joy for last since it’s always better to end with good news.

If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.

Potential Grief During the Holiday after an Adoption

  • Grief is unavoidable and will be there when you’re least expecting it.
  • You will yearn for the touch of your baby, and while it’s great that your baby will have a different family to join for the holiday, there will be a piece missing that you cannot fill.
  • An overload of emotions will take over and break you down. Emotions can harm us in ways we’ve never experienced before.
  • It’s hard to admit, but you will feel lonely. When you begin to watch other children open their presents and smile, it might be hard for you to share the same emotion.
  • It’s not enough to know that you’re child is not there; if families don’t see well to your Adoption Plan, they might end the relationship with you.

Experiencing Joy During the Holiday and an Adoption 

  • One of the great things about the adoption process for you as the birth mother is that you can always turn back to the adoption specialist and express your feelings. They will always provide a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on.
  • Birth mother support groups are common after an adoption finishes. Much like talking to an adoption specialist, the support groups allow all birth mothers to gather and talk about their struggles after adoption and the emotions they’ve experienced.
  • Writing a letter to your child can be a great sense of relief. It’s a great way to cope with grief.
  • Your child can become a part of your holiday tradition too! The nice thing about open adoption is that you can visit your child occasionally. What better way than spending time with them on Christmas?
  • More importantly, and this one is easier said than done, take care of yourself. You’re human, and your body will need to be taken care of once the adoption is over. You must remember to breathe and take time for yourself.

A Final Note to Wrap Things Up Before the Holidays During an Adoption

Grief is a powerful thing. it lets us know when we’ve lost something close to us. When you’re unpacking grief during the holiday, it’s not bad to acknowledge it; however, allowing grief to overwhelm you will tear you down. It’ll make you doubt your decision. You should never feel abandoned during the holiday; there’s a reason why Christmas is such a special time of the year: it’s because of the joy that people experience. As a birth mother, you have every right to share in the same positive emotions as others during the holiday. You’ve done something unforgettable for another family. Adoption Choices of Colorado is open 24/7 and will be here to answer your questions. Taking the first step is nerve-wracking, but you might feel more confident about yourself when we walk you through the adoption process.  

If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

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