Unplanned Pregnancy and Choosing Adoption During the Holiday Season

By Nicole Hatton

As the holiday season approaches, there is much to be excited about and make plans for. However, if you recently received news of an unplanned pregnancy, this can alter your plans and change things. Thinking about child adoption and learning how to give a baby up for adoption can be overwhelming. You may be experiencing a range of emotions, which can be magnified during the holiday season. Feeling stressed, anxious, scared, isolated, sad, and other feelings is valid. However, at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we are happy to provide you with adoption services and support you. Keep reading to learn more about the adoption process, processing emotions, self-care, and other adoption resources.

Navigating the Adoption Process

The adoption process may seem daunting initially, but you do not have to go through it alone! The first step after receiving news of your unplanned pregnancy will typically be contacting an adoption agency. There are different adoption agencies in Colorado that you can look into. We at Adoption Choices of Colorado are also another option and are ready to assist you with anything you need. After finding an agency you feel comfortable with, the next step is to create an adoption plan with a specialist. Our adoption counselors and specialists are happy to learn about your background and answer any questions. This plan may include creating a budget, choosing an adoptive family, choosing a level of openness, and more. If you decide to do an open adoption, then you will be able to choose the adoptive family. The next step in the process is birth and relinquishment. If you did not decide what to do with your baby at that point, choosing adoption is still an option. You could do last-minute adoption and still create a plan with an adoption specialist. However, you will never be forced to finalize adoption. The last step in the process is receiving adoption support.

It’s also important to note that you don’t have to pay to choose adoption during the adoption process. It does not cost anything to place your child for adoption, either. If any adoption agencies in Colorado do charge you, it’s better to call a caring licensed professional. 

Processing Emotions Through Your Adoption Journey

There are many different methods of processing your emotions. Take the time to get through things, and remember that everyone is on their adoption journey. Just because you may take shorter or longer than someone else doesn’t mean they will be on a similar timeline. It may take even a year after the adoption process for some people. It’s OK to grieve and accept how you’re feeling. It may be helpful to speak with a counselor, therapist, or another adoption professional who is more knowledgeable. They can provide support that is tailored to your situation and answer questions. Moreover, they can help connect you to a support group to discuss and share adoption stories.

If you need to set boundaries and take time alone to process things, that is also OK. Your friends and family should understand and want you to prioritize your well-being. It could be helpful to journal your thoughts and emotions alone. Feel free to let anything and everything out without filtering your thoughts when journaling. No one else has to read your true thoughts, and it can be helpful to simply let it all out. If you would like to share your thoughts with someone else later, journaling your thoughts before speaking with someone can be beneficial. Organizing your thoughts beforehand can help you figure out what specific things you would like to discuss more. If you have any goals or concerns you would like to address, you can come into conversation with a clearer mind.

Practicing Self-Care During Your Unplanned Pregnancy

It’s crucial to practice self-care by taking care of your mental and physical well-being. It’s OK to put yourself first at times and practice self-compassion. In the meantime, getting enough sleep at night and doing things that bring you joy is healthy. Whether it is reading, listening to music, going on walks, or other activities, do whatever hobbies that you like, make sure to eat a balanced diet and move your body a bit. If you feel stressed and overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or a personal support system. 

Other Adoption Resources

If you have any other questions, you can always contact Adoption Choices of Colorado; we would be happy to help. You can read multiple adoption stories that can help you decide if adoption is right for you. These stories can also provide insight into what going through the process is like. You can also find other birth mother resources with various topics listed in A-Z order. Some of these topics include financial assistance, single-parent adoption, adoption language, and more. We know that going through the adoption process, especially during the holidays, can be tough. If you ever have questions, feel free to contact us, and we will assist you.

 

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