Types of Adoptive Families You can Choose for Your Child
When you go through the adoption process and select a potential adoptive family for your child, it can be a big choice. After all, families can come from a variety of different backgrounds that stand apart from your own. You may encounter younger, older, LGBTQ+, single, partnered, or transracial adoptive parents. While that is not an all-inclusive list, it may help you start to think about the world you will find out there on your adoption journey with Adoption Choices of Colorado.
Let’s take a look at some of those aforementioned identities and groups, remembering that who someone is isn’t nearly as important as how they will love and take care of your child. Difference is okay, so don’t let it scare you off. Focus more on finding an adoptive family who shares your best values.
Younger & Older Adoptive Families
As with all the groups we will be looking at, you might have to get past some stereotypes. That’s not to say that you stereotype on a consistent basis, or that stereotyping is your fault, but just that we often are exposed to stereotypes in society. If your child has a younger adoptive family, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they will be inexperienced or out of control. On the flip side, an older adoptive family isn’t synonymous with weakness or being out of touch with current realities. Despite the world often assuming that people are defined by their ages, you can absolutely find people of different ages that share your values. Do what feels right for you!
LGBTQ+ Adoptive Parents
If you’ve seen Modern Family, you probably do not need an explanation about how LGBTQ+ parents can be great everyday caretakers and guardians. There is, unfortunately, a lot of stigma around the same sex community in general, but having an LGBTQ+ identity does not make anyone a bad parent. If anything, for the large majority of adoptive families, it can make them more accepting. Having your child grow up in a home that is accepting of a variety of identities could be hugely beneficial for their mental health.
Single, Partnered, and Married Adoptive Parents
While there are certainly single parents out there in the world who struggle, keep in mind that there are married parents who also struggle. Being single, married or in a domestic relationship does not necessarily mean that you are better off. In that same strain of thought, having a single parent or married parents can also both be great outcomes for your child. Again, the recurring theme is that they get the love that they need.
Transracial Adoptive Families
People with different racial and cultural backgrounds can certainly have different experiences, but nothing about those qualities inherently makes them bad parents. If an adoptive family adores your child and happens to be Jewish, but you’re not Jewish, is that really going to be what impedes your adoption process? If an adoptive family is white and you are black, is that really more important than that white family being the best fit for your child’s needs?
What am I Supposed to do with This Information about Adoptive Families?
At this moment, you might be thinking that none of your questions have really been answered. You may have wanted to know what to expect specifically from different types of adoptive families. However, the point is that who they are matters much less than how they will treat your child. There is no guidebook that describes a standard LGBTQ+ adoptive family and how they may act, because there is no standard LGBTQ+ adoptive family. Many of these categories (which, again, are not all inclusive) are also not completely isolated — you could encounter young, LGBTQ+, transracial adoptive families, for example. An adoptive family is often more than a label, just as you are.
What are the “True” Types of Adoptive Families Then?
As a birth mother, it really comes down to who works for you and who doesn’t. As mentioned in the beginning, shared values are the strongest base for your decisions regarding an adoptive family. Those values may lead you down a road where your child’s adoptive family ends up being a transracial family or perhaps older family, but base your selection on heart, not features.
As always, Adoption Choices of Colorado is an excellent resource if you feel like you are struggling or just need a bit of extra help. In the end, probably the wisest thing you can do is treat the selection of a potential adoptive family less like the United States census and more like a search for kindred souls. Seeing eye to eye is more important than matching labels and identities.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Nathan Dyer is a university student majoring in Communication Arts with a radio/TV/film focus. He enjoys writing professionally and dealing with hands-on problems in real-world scenarios. Among his hobbies is hiking, which always encourages him to explore new places. He looks forward to crafting written materials in the future that serve to help people from all walks of life.