Top 3 Questions Intended Parents Have
Surrogacy is a special process that allows couples who can’t have children of their own to start a family through the womb of a surrogate mother. For many, gestational surrogacy is a relatively unknown process, and you may be wondering what the risks and benefits are of helping another start a family this way. Here at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado, we are experienced in navigating the surrogacy process and want to provide you with clear-cut answers to any questions you have. As a surrogate mother, it is important to understand every aspect of the surrogacy process. Here are a few questions intended parents might have about the Colorado surrogacy process.
What Role Do Intended Parents Play in the Surrogacy Process?
You may be wondering what an intended parent will contribute to the surrogacy process since the surrogate mother will be carrying the child. However, there are many ways they will be involved. The first step in the surrogacy process will be to consult with a surrogacy agency, such as Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado, and take care of any introductory material they assign. Once matched with a surrogate mother, they will begin to create the embryos, if applicable. In some cases, a couple cannot create their own embryo, but if they are able to, they will undergo the medical procedures to do so. Once a surrogate mother has been impregnated, they will be able to involve themselves along their pregnancy journey. Of course, the involvement level will vary from case to case. If an intended parent wants the surrogate mother to follow a specific diet or make certain lifestyle changes, these are ideas that they can propose and details they can work out with the surrogate mother. Obviously, once the child is born, they will bring them home and start their new life together.
What if the Surrogate Mother Wants to Keep the Baby?
Although separating with the baby that she has carried for months will be difficult, surrogate mothers are legally required to give the child to the intended parents once they are born. Although this may be a fear that many intended parents experience going into the process, there is no need for concern because the surrogate mother is required to sign an agreement that includes the surrender of the baby to the intended parents. Keep in mind that the type of surrogacy that is permitted throughout the states is gestational surrogacy, which is when the surrogate mother is not biologically related to the child.
However, if the surrogate mother is having a hard time letting go of the baby following the birth, an intended parent can do things to make the process a little easier for her. For example, they could allow her to spend precious time with the baby in the hospital and allow her to meet the child she has held for so many months in her womb. Additionally, some surrogate mothers maintain a relationship with the child as they grow up, similar to the relationship a birth mother may sustain with a child they place for adoption. However, they are not required to sustain a relationship with the surrogate mother if they don’t wish for their child to grow up with her. Ultimately, as the intended parents, they will work together with the surrogate mother to determine the details of their specific surrogacy plan.
How Do I Start the Surrogacy Process?
Contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado to get started on your surrogacy journey. Our staff is waiting to answer any additional questions you may have and help you get started. If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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