Tips on Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Infant Adoption in Colorado
The Colorado adoption process can seem to be all about order, tasks, and getting your ducks in a row. While some of that is true, it isn’t just systematically getting from point A to point B as logically as possible. Some choices require instinct and gut feelings as well. In no area of the adoption process is that more important than in choosing an adoptive family. Paperwork aside, only you will know at heart who you would like to raise your child.
How do I Begin Searching for an Adoptive Family?
You actually do not have to do any of the searching, which is hopefully a huge stress-reliever. Adoption Choices of Colorado compiles a list of potential candidates for you. The candidates and their homes go through numerous screening processes. Miniature biographies of various adoptive families are then put before you as the birth mother, so that you have an easier way to select the best fit for you and your child.
How will I Know the Adoptive Family for Me?
It can be tempting while choosing an adoptive family to select people that share your interests or hobbies, yet that may not be the best way to go about things. You ultimately want them to share your values, at least when it comes to how you want your child to be raised. If your values don’t line up, your vision for your child’s future might not align with their reality, leading to potential conflicts. In an open adoption especially, where you may still be in contact with your child’s adoptive parent(s) after the adoption, you want to make sure that you are on the same page. Values before other similarities is always a smart route to go.
What if an Adoptive Family is Drastically Different, Despite Sharing my Values?
In this case, weigh your options and decide what is best for you. Adoptive families look different across the United States. There are people of other races and cultural backgrounds, as well as people of other sexual orientations and economic lifestyles. Their hobbies might be bizarre or of no interest to you; but, at the end of the day, the focus is still the care you want your child to receive. If an adoptive family likes sports and you do not, that’s not nearly as important as knowing the family will be loving and raise your child like you would. The differences we usually see as so dividing in our world are not actually that different at all.
Should I Pick a Closed, Semi-Open, or Open Adoption with the Adoptive Family?
This decision all depends on where you see yourself now and where you would like to see yourself in the near future. Some birth mothers feel the need for a fresh start, which might mean a closed adoption, or no contact with their child. Everyone can move on and start a life that works best for them. Semi-open adoptions are a peg up when it comes to communication, where you may use resources here at Adoption Choices of Colorado to connect with her child’s adoptive family. In that sense, our adoption agency becomes the middleman for planning visits. A fully open adoption means that you would have direct contact with the adoptive family, being able to plan visits much more easily.
The answer to what type of adoption you should have is very situational and entirely up to your preferences. So, take some time to consider what you would like. Asking close loved ones for advice, or using our free counseling services here at Adoption Choices of Colorado is also highly recommended.
What are my Adoption Options with Choosing an Adoptive Family?
The easiest way to move forward is to trust in the adoption process. There are many, many successful adoption stories, so it is a tried and true practice. Do you best to take logical actions, but ones that are also grounded in instinct, love, and emotional care. Choosing an adoptive family doesn’t have to be just another task or something strenuous. It’s something that you get to put a lot of thought into and have a lot of influence over. Your say matters.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Nathan Dyer is a university student majoring in Communication Arts with a radio/TV/film focus. He enjoys writing professionally and dealing with hands-on problems in real-world scenarios. Among his hobbies is hiking, which always encourages him to explore new places. He looks forward to crafting written materials in the future that serve to help people from all walks of life.