This blog will explore some of the most common myths and misconceptions regarding home studies. Even though some of the following concerns have been covered in previous weeks, it’s important to note that they are real apprehensions that prospective adoptive parents have. Thus, we want to ensure your piece of mind during the home study process.
Myth #1: The home study is simply a home inspection
While this is a common misconception, and what the term, “home study” may lead you to believe, the inspection is just a small part of the home study. The home study process encompasses interviews, documents, clearances, and references, etc., and is one of the most essential aspects of your adoption journey. Not only will it include two or three visits to your home, but it will also be an in-depth look into your motivation, extended family members, lifestyle, childhood, employment history education, finances, health, marriage, parenting philosophies, adoption issues, and transracial factors (if applicable). Your home and community, guns in the home, water features, and other safety factors will be considered as well.
A social worker will conduct the home visits, where they will interview you and your spouse, individually and separately, and any additional family members living in the home. To learn more about what is covered during these interviews, please check out our three-part series on home study interviews.
Myth #2: The social worker will be looking for reasons to defer me as a prospective adoptive parent
There is a concern that the social worker will walk into your home, put on white gloves, and inspect your home with judgmental scrutiny.
This is incorrect.
Your social worker does have state-mandated topics and subjects that must be covered, but, your social worker is there to be a resource and a guide. Your social worker has the best interest of the adopted child in mind, and is looking for a safe environment. If they observe or discover anything that they deem to be a potential red flag, they will discuss that with you.
An important thought to keep in mind: most families (and human beings in general) are not perfect. Your social worker will not expect you to be. You have the duty of honest disclosure as a prospective adoptive parent. Your home study will reflect your many strengths as well as your limitations.
Myth #3: You must have a perfect, spotless home
Another myth concerning the home study is that your home has to be perfectly clean, organized and baby-proofed. Baby-proofing options, such as monitors, stairway gates, and cupboard latches will be discussed, but do not have to be in place. Reasonable tidiness is appreciated; however, signs of everyday living are taken into account. The key is to present yourself and your environment as realistically as you can, knowing that your social worker is not there to make judgements about you.
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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