Things to Consider Before Becoming a Surrogate Mother in Colorado
Choosing to help a family fulfill their desire to be parents is an act of immeasurable selflessness. Being a gestational surrogate for intended parents is a feeling only those who have been through the surrogacy process can understand. For many couples, a surrogate is their only option to have a child. For some, just wanting to give the gift of parenthood to an intended family is enough of a reason to become a surrogate. There are many great reasons to become a surrogate, and everyone will have their own motivations. If you’re considering becoming a surrogate in Colorado, you have a lot to think about and consider before you dive in headfirst.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is here for you to provide all of the information and answers you need to feel confident in your decisions. If you’re completely new to surrogacy, we’ll go over how surrogacy works, how to become a surrogate mother, how to qualify to be a surrogate, and more. We want you to feel prepared and completely comfortable during your surrogacy journey.
Not everyone is cut out for surrogacy, and that’s OK. Surrogacy isn’t for everyone, and it’s not a decision to take lightly. Take time to think it through, talk with your partner, and educate yourself as much as possible. If you’re looking into surrogacy, here are a few things to consider.
Surrogacy is a Commitment
Clear your schedule and cancel those trips to the Bahamas. Surrogacy takes a lot of time between applying, the surrogacy requirements, screenings, IVF, and of course, pregnancy. It’s a lot of waiting, and not everyone has the patience. If you’re considering becoming a surrogate, remember it can take one to two years to complete the entire process. Surrogacy isn’t a quick process, it’s a big commitment, and a lot is at stake. The whole point of gestational surrogacy is using a vessel to create a life for someone else. Getting impatient partway through the process of wanting to back out is heartbreaking for the intended parents, and no one gets back that time already invested. If you’re thinking of becoming a gestational surrogate, be ready to be in it for the long haul. You’ll have to plan your life around surrogacy, including doctor appointments, IVF appointments, pregnancy, and even some possible travel. Gestational surrogacy is more than just a nine-month thing.
Why Do You Want to Be a Surrogate?
This might be a tricky question to pin down the answer for. Surrogates can have many reasons for choosing to become a surrogate, and those reasons might even change over time. In general, many women who choose to become gestational surrogates do it to bring the gift of life to a hopeful intended family. Those who suffer from infertility, can’t carry a baby for medical reasons, hopeful single patents, and LGBTQ+ couples rely on people like you who understand their struggles and desires. Surrogates are in a unique position, and you should understand the weight of your choices. It can be personal or straightforward, but if you think surrogacy is an excellent way to make money, you may want to reconsider your motivations.
The IVF Process and Medical Aspects of Gestational Surrogacy
Gestational surrogacy is a medical and scientific masterpiece. Before modern medical breakthroughs allowing fertilization outside the uterus, traditional surrogacy was the only option and caused a lot more emotional issues. If you become a gestational surrogate, you will have to deal with a myriad of medications, procedures, and injections. After all of the pre-screening procedures, surrogates will have to go through various medical and fertility injections prior to and after the IVF procedure. Since self-injections are necessary, gestational surrogacy is definitely not for those with trypanophobia.
Surrogacy Can be Rough Mentally
Everyone has a different experience during their time as a surrogate. Even if you mentally prepare yourself as much as possible, you still may run into a few unexpected hills and dips in that emotional roller coaster. It can be hard to wrap your head around the fact that you have no biological relation to the baby you’ll be growing inside you for nine months. You may or may not feel a disconnect, and saying goodbye after birth may be difficult. Some surrogates say it’s easy to move forward postpartum, and some struggle. Either way, don’t feel guilty for the way you feel. Never feel like you need to validate your emotions or compare yourself to others and their experience. You’re doing something amazing, and no one can tell you how to feel about it. Take advantage of Adoption and Surrogacy of Colorado’s counselors and postpartum counseling. You may not feel like you need it, but it might help more than you think.
What Kind of Relationship Would You Want With the Intended Family?
Open and honest relationships between the surrogate and intended parents create a strong and solid foundation for surrogacy. Be upfront about your feelings, needs, and wants, and be willing to listen to theirs. Relationships take time to grow, and it won’t happen overnight. Just because you’re their surrogate doesn’t mean you have to become close immediately. Take time to talk, bond, establish trust, and foster a healthy relationship. Decide how much contact you want outside of the basic get-to-know-you meetings. The relationship between the surrogate and the intended family can be a unique and beneficial bond for everyone involved. You can act as support for each other and make your surrogacy journey the best it can be.
Are you Considering Becoming a Surrogate in Colorado?
There’s a lot to think about when it comes to deciding to become a surrogate. There’s mental and physical preparation, as well as meeting the qualifications to become a surrogate. If you think you qualify but aren’t sure if it’s the right choice for you, talk with us at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado. We never pressure you to make any decisions and only want to help guide you to the best option for you. Surrogacy isn’t for everyone, and it may not be for you. You’ll never know until you try! Surrogacy is a beautiful thing, and if it’s the right path for you, we want to help and support you throughout your journey.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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