The Top 5 Reasons to Recognize National Adoption Month as a Birth Mother
Happy November! In the United States, the month of November is recognized as National Adoption Month. The purpose of National Adoption Month is to bring awareness to the unique familial bonds that are forged in the adoption process.
As a birth mother placing your child for adoption, this month can be a great time for you to learn about all things adoption and celebrate the opportunity you’re providing for your child..
Why Birth Mothers Can Celebrate Adoption
- The Loving Adoptive Families
For a birth mother who has made the difficult decision to place her child for adoption, you want to ensure that they are going to a family who will love and care for them. That they will have the best life possible. It may also be that you want to remain a part of their life.
There are many prospective families who are more than willing to establish this kind of relationship. Knowing that your child is going to be raised by loving and supportive people is certainly a reason to celebrate.
- The Chance to Start a New Life
If your living and financial situation is compromised in a way that makes you unable to take care of a child, Adoption Choices of Colorado is more than willing to help you. We can take care of rent for the duration of your pregnancy, and help you with necessary financial burdens, if you are eligible for our financial assistance.
This support can mean everything to some birth mothers and direct you towards the possibility of a new life.
- Carrying a Healthy Child means Becoming a Healthy Mother
If you are struggling with your health or fighting through any addictions, it may become a necessity for you to be sober and healthy while carrying a child. Maintaining sobriety for the benefit of your child can eventually lead to maintaining it for yourself. This is no mean feat, and we understand that. However, living free from your addictions and health worries, undoubtedly, leads to a higher quality of life.
- You’re the Decision Maker
A common narrative by people not experienced with the adoption process is that birth mothers don’t have any say in what happens to their child. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Birth mothers make a tremendous sacrifice when they place their child for adoption. We don’t underestimate their grief, and we give them autonomy in this process because they deserve that power and that closure.
As a birth mother, you have the right to choose the adoptive family of your child. Each adoptive family is required to submit a portfolio for review. The prospective adoptive parents may share things about their relationship, their home life, their professional lives, whether they have other children, and a whole host of other things! It is up to you to decide how you want your child to be raised and what opportunities they have growing up. That is definitely a reason to celebrate!
- You’re Getting a Community
It’s understandable to grieve in the aftermath of your child being placed with an adoptive family. It’s a shock to your system and a major adjustment in life. For this reason, Adoption Choices of Colorado offers support groups for birth mothers run by birth mothers. This is a community of women from all different backgrounds, with their shared experience as birth mothers tying them together.
There is no timetable on grief, and being surrounded by others who know your pain can be incredibly healing. Having a circle that understands you is another reason to recognize National Adoption Month as a birth mother.
Finding the Good in Adoption
It may seem strange to celebrate the adoption process as a birth mother. However, it is important to recognize this process as something that is the best for your child and yourself. It is an opportunity to care for something beyond yourself, and to do right by the child that you are carrying. By doing this, you will take care of yourself and your health by proxy, and as such your life will improve. It is also a possibility that you can develop a loving relationship with the child you placed and the adoptive family, and that is a wonderful thing.
You are the one in charge during the adoption process.You get to make the best decisions possible for your child. There are many reasons to recognize National Adoption Month as a birth mother, and the emphasis should always be on finding the good.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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