The Top 4 Positive Emotions You can Expect after Placing Your Baby for Adoption
Nine months have gone by in the blink of an eye. As you lay in your hospital bed, you marvel at just how much has happened. You created an adoption plan, selected your child’s adoptive parents, deciding what type of adoption you wanted and what kind of relationship you wanted to have with the adoptive parents post placement. You watch as the adoptive parents carefully scoop up your newborn. You had expected to feel awful in this moment. To feel an overwhelming sense of sadness. But, you find that’s impossible. The look on the adoptive parents’ faces warms your heart and brings tears to your eyes.
If you are considering adoption for you and your child, or are in the midst of the adoption process, you may wonder at how you’ll feel the day your child is born. Unfortunately, there is no answer for this. Adoption is a complex and emotional process and impacts each and every birth mother differently. However, the feelings you experience are not all negative.
In fact, Adoption Choices of Colorado has put together a resource of the top four positive emotions you can expect after placing your baby for adoption to give you more insight into this..
1. Relief that the Adoption Process is Over
You pack up your belongings and take one last look around your hospital room. It’s over. The months of planning and preparation. The stress, anxiety and freak out moments. All the tears and sleepless nights, wondering if everything will be okay. Your child has just left with their new adoptive family. In a few short days, they will go before a judge in court and make everything official. You breathe a huge sigh of relief. A smile creeps across your face as you turn and walk out of the hospital. You’ve made it!
If you feel relief that the adoption process is over, that is perfectly okay! This is natural and to be expected. There is no shame in feeling this emotion, and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong. The adoption process can be a stressful thing to go through, and you may not realize just how many emotions you were holding on to until everything is over.
2. Confidence in Your Choice
The adoptive parents have sent you the first update! Eagerly, you log into your email. It’s been a few months, and you’ve been anxious to learn how everything is going. Is your birth child still alright? Are the adoptive parents adjusting to parenthood? Are they all bonding and getting along? The first image you see is of your birth child with a big smile on their face. This is exactly what you needed.
It’s moments like this that you can be confident you made the right choice. When you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that your birth child is happy and that their life with the adoptive parents is going well. This means everything to you.
3. Peace of Mind
Now that your child is with his or her new family, you don’t have to worry about their well-being anymore. You can freely resume what you were doing before you became pregnant. Whether this was looking at graduate programs, striving towards a desired job promotion or raising your other children, you have peace of mind and can maintain focus on what’s happening in your own life. This may mean giving yourself some much needed self-care as well, as you ease back into your everyday activities.
Perhaps you didn’t feel that your adoption journey was all that stressful. Perhaps you didn’t realize just how worried and anxious you were until it was all over. Yet, now that the next phrase of your adoption journey has begun, you can see things in a different light. You can feel at peace with your choice and that it’s okay to healthfully continue on with your life.
3. Hope for the Future
Deciding to place your baby for adoption was one of the most difficult decisions you ever made. There were so many times where you fought with yourself, told yourself you could handle it, and struggled with whether or not you should change your mind. You battle depression and discouragement. But, deep down, you know all along what was best for you and your baby.
This has brought you to where you and your baby are today. With the help of Adoption Choices of Colorado, your baby is happy and healthy, living life with a loving adoptive family. You’re also thriving. Something you knew wouldn’t be possible if you’d kept your child. For the first time in what seemed a long time, you feel hope. You have hope for the future. Not only for your own, but also hope for your child and the adoptive parents.
Positive Emotions You can Expect after Placing Your Baby for Adoption
After placing your baby for adoption, you may feel many different emotions. All too often, we assume that this means negative. That you will be overcome with grief, depression and sadness. That you will be unable to carry on. But that is not the case. There are also many positive emotions you can expect after placing your baby for adoption.
Adoption impacts each and every birth mother differently, as no two adoption journeys are alike. There may, of course, be times of challenge and feelings that aren’t the happiest. Yet, the important thing to remember is that when you choose adoption for you and your baby, you may be surprised at just how blessed, loved and supported you feel.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.