The Many Adoption Fears Birth Mothers May Have

As a birth mom, it is normal to have many fears for your baby. All moms do! At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we understand some of these fears. This article looks into some of the fears you might have as a birth mom. Although this list can not compile all of the fears you may have, it does discuss many of the common ones. Regardless of what type of adoption you may choose to go through for your baby, it is important to remember that you are trying your best and doing what is best for your baby!

  • I Am a Bad Mom for Giving My Child Up for Adoption

No, you are not! This feeling may arise, but it is important to let go of this fear. Many times situations are not in our hands. So it goes in life. You may be giving your baby up for adoption for a number of reasons. Maybe you can’t raise them currently. Therefore you’d like for another family to take care of your baby. You are making the decision that is best for your baby here. If you feel that you will not be able to give your baby everything they need for a happy life and choose adoption as an option, this doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you a thoughtful mother wanting what is best for her child. Maybe you are too young to properly raise a baby.

Teen pregnancy is more common than you may know, and many times the baby’s father may not be in the picture. You are a mother that desires a functional family and a bright future for your baby. If this is the case and you have decided to put your baby up for adoption, this makes you a caring mom simply wanting a better lifestyle for her baby. Regardless of the reason behind why you are giving your baby up for adoption, this is not an easy decision. It takes a lot of courage to come to this decision. You are far from a bad mom. You are a thoughtful, caring, and brave mom!

  • My Baby Will Hate Me

This is false in many situations. Adoption Choices of Colorado specializes in open or semi-open adoption. Open adoption means that you and the adoptive parents, as well as your baby, will be in contact. Of course, the amount of contact will depend. However, whichever type of adoption you choose, you will be able to play an active role in your child’s life. Whether from afar or up close, your baby may have questions but will eventually be able to understand why you made the decision to go through the Colorado adoption process. They will hopefully be able to appreciate why you made such a decision.

  • The Adoptive Parents Won’t Love My Baby as Their Own

This, like all of your other fears, is a valid one. These questions are normal to arise on this difficult journey. It is important to remember that many of the adoptive families waiting to adopt have been doing so for a while. Often, they have gone through many other procedures before coming to the decision to adopt, such as IVF. Some may have gone through the painful experience of miscarriages. Even after they decide to adopt, they wait even more to finally welcome a baby into their family. The adoptive families that are eagerly waiting to warmly welcome a baby into their lives will surely take care of your baby as their own. They will protect and raise them like any other family.

  • I Am Selfish For Choosing Adoption

Choosing the process of adoption is far from selfish. Selfishness could be if you decide to keep your baby even though you are aware that you will not be able to raise your baby properly. Birth mothers that come to the difficult decision of giving their baby up for adoption often have to put aside all of their hopes and desires and think only about their baby. You are not selfish for thinking about what is the best option for your baby. Adoption decisions are usually born out of complete selflessness. Don’t let this fear get the best of you.

  • The Adoptive Family Will Not Follow Through on Their Promises

Again, this is a valid fear because nothing can be guaranteed. However, communication is key in this case. An open adoption is a common option that allows for this type of open communication. With an open adoption process, everything can be discussed between the birth parents and the adoptive parents from as early as can be in the adoption process and even later on after placement. Everything is discussed. But you don’t have to worry that this is all on you. Adoption Choices of Colorado will be with you every step of the way.

We Are Here To Help You With Your Adoption Fears

These may be some of the fears that might be going through your mind. It is important to know that these fears are valid. Many birth mothers, even those who do not choose the route of adoption, experience fearing and worrying for their children. Luckily, you are not alone on this journey. You will be able to make an informed decision regarding the adoption of your baby with us. Adoption Choices of Colorado understands the many fears and emotions you may be experiencing, and we are here for you.

Ifrah MohammedMeet the author: Ifrah Mohammed. Pursuing a Communications-Journalism Bachelor’s degree at Siena College, she is an aspiring content writer. A hard-working daughter of immigrant parents, she was born and raised in Queens, NY, and has resided in Fort Worth, TX. Her passions include writing and traveling. Moving around has allowed her to gain valuable perspective. When she is not writing or traveling, she is baking or reading. She currently resides in
Schenectady, NY, a town 30 minutes away from Albany.

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