When preparing for a big test, statistics show that preparation is the greatest factor to overcome the nerves and perform well. That, and of course getting a good amount of sleep and eating a healthy, balanced breakfast. It’s similar with the home study process. Home study anxiety is a well-known piece of the puzzle, but studying up on how to best prepare and what information is needed for the home visits will help the overall outcome.
The home study process with Adoption Choices of Colorado consists of three joint interviews with prospective adoptive parents. Last week, we shared what the first interview covered. This week, we want to continue the conversation with what is covered during the second interview.
Your social worker wants to know your level of preparation when it comes to parenting. How you were parented as a child, and what you think was successful. How did you respond to your parents, and what methods were used for discipline? Your social worker will also ask about what you learned from your parents, and what you will and won’t utilize when raising your child. Parenting techniques you’ve observed from friends, family, and others will be brought into consideration as well.
Basically, your social worker wants you to describe your parenting style and the philosophy behind it. Your social worker may pose questions in the form of scenarios, to see how you will respond.
Another aspect of parenting is expecting the unexpected. Your social worker will ask about this. Make sure you have thought this through. In the case of the incapacitation or death of both of you, choosing a guardian for your child is important. Will it be another family member? A friend? Have the reasons behind your choice clearly outlined. Ask if your choice of guardians will accept the guardianship. Will they respect the level of openness you have established with the birth parents?
Be sure to formalize guardianship information in your will after the adoption finalization.
Specialized Adoption Needs
If you have chosen to adopt a child with special needs, your social worker will have specialized questions relating to this. They will ask how prepared you are. If needed, they will discuss additional educational resources.
Parenting a child with special needs takes extra time, effort, finances, insurance and energy. Your child will experience things differently than any other child — physically, emotionally and mentally. You will need to have the appropriate financial and mental capabilities to be an effective and successful parent.
Other Household Members
If there are other children or adults living under the same roof, your social worker will ask about them. Other children, additional family members, and even live-in nannies. Your social worker will want to know how everyone will interact with your child, to gain insight into the dynamics of the household. You will also be asked about the kind of tangible and intangible support that will be provided by extended family members.
Adoption Choices of Colorado
For more information on adoption please contact Adoption Choices of Colorado. We can reached via our website or phone 303-670-4401.
Previous article in series: “The Home Study Interview: Part I.”
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Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2018, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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