Telling Your Loved Ones about Adoption
You are waiting to tell your friends and family about placing your baby for adoption. So many things pop up in your mind, such as the right time, who will be disappointed, or being misjudged. Our adoption professionals at Adoption Choices of Colorado understand it can be a very challenging situation. Informing your loved ones about your decision for CO adoption can be one of them. It just takes time and effort.
No one should interfere with your right to choose adoption in Colorado because it’s a situation you need to manage. We provide you with as much advice and encouragement to break through your birth mother’s fears. The best way to explain your situation is by starting with the most important information about your adoption.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
How to Address Reactions and Misconceptions From Your Loved Ones About Adoption
There is no reason without cause, right? You are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, and you are facing difficult circumstances. It’s a birth mother’s priority to manage her pregnancy. Due to unforeseen events or circumstances, it was the best decision for you to explore adoption options. Help your friends and family understand that you are doing what’s right for you and your child.
However, your loved ones may be worried that you are unable to manage an unplanned pregnancy on your own.
Certain reactions you can expect from your friends and family include:
- Feeling you just panicked
- Thinking you don’t want to take on responsibilities
- Worrying your child will feel abandoned
- Wondering if you may go through birth mother grief or loss
These reactions can be expected because your loved ones may care about you and your child’s well-being. In some cases, their reactions may also come from misconceptions about adoption. Some people think adoption sets a bad example for birth mothers. One reason can be the misconception that adoption is quitting or not wanting to take care of your child.
Advise your friends and family that your decision to place your baby up for adoption may reduce your stress and anxiety. You can reassure them that a private adoption Colorado agency will provide you with assistance during the adoption process. Explain to them the type of benefits available to birth mothers in need, such as financial assistance, housing, and counseling. Therefore, you are not alone.
Let your loved ones also know that adoption is not giving up or a laid-back excuse. Adoption is caring for and loving a child in a birth mother’s absence with an adoptive family. However, the birth mother is legally part of her child’s growth and development through adoption.
Explain How Adoption Choices of Colorado will Help You
You can describe how Adoption Choices of Colorado will help you manage your pregnancy. The first thing you will need to do is reach out to one of our adoption agencies in Colorado. An adoption specialist will guide you through the steps to create an adoption plan. There are multiple adoption options that are built to accommodate every birth mother’s needs. It depends on the severity of your situation and the type of support you are looking for.
Our job is to empathetically help birth mothers take the necessary steps to achieve that goal by:
- Offering financial assistance to help with monthly expenses, such as utilities, medical, food, transportation, housing, and education
- Providing monthly support counseling and mental health therapy with an adoption counselor
- Assisting birth mothers in searching for the best adoptive family through our waiting families profile page
Our assistance programs aim to support birth mothers’ needs to help balance their work, activities, and personal life during and after their pregnancy. We also provide Post-Placement Support for our birth mothers on the second Monday of every month. Our Post-Placement Support program assists birth mothers during their post-adoption phase with extended counseling and financial assistance. These are all essential and positive adoption outcomes you can relay to your family and friends.
Your Adoption Options are Secure with Adoption Choices of Colorado!
It’s not always easy for a birth mother to open up to her loved ones about choosing adoption. Adoption professionals at our private adoption Colorado agencies know it takes time to process and feels confident about your decision. Above all, you are working with Adoption Choices of Colorado to ease you through an unexpected pregnancy.
As a responsible birth mother, your primary goal isn’t to satisfy other people’s perceptions about motherhood or adoption. Your primary goal is to do what you feel is right for you and your baby, depending on your situation. If you need further guidance in opening up about your decision, seek advice from our counseling services.
Adoption is a choice a birth mother makes to move an unexpected situation in a better direction. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!