Colorado Surrogates on the Delivery and Postpartum Experience
For you’re considering becoming a surrogate in Colorado, you will have already had at least one healthy, successful pregnancy and delivery. That experience certainly informs the basic biological journey of pregnancy and delivery. But as a gestational surrogate, you’re carrying a baby on behalf of someone else. That key difference does impact some aspects of the delivery and postpartum experience Colorado surrogates have to go through.
Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado has a team of professionals to walk you through each step of the journey, including after the baby is born. Here are a few things you can expect.
If you or someone you know is interested in becoming a surrogate, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado.
The details of the delivery and hospital stay will be planned, as much as possible, in advance. One key difference you’ll notice as a surrogate is that because you are carrying someone else’s child, the intended parents’ wishes for their child’s delivery are as important as yours. Your case manager will be in touch with you, the intended parents, and the hospital throughout your third trimester to help create the best possible hospital plan for everyone involved.
A few things that might be considered are:
- At which hospital will you deliver? Very often, you, as the surrogate, will be able to choose the hospital. Your medical care team will have an affiliation. Usually, it’s close to your home. Most intended parents are more than willing to travel to the hospital of the surrogate’s choice.
- Who is going to be in the delivery room? You may want a doula to assist in the birth. Often the intended parents want to be in the room as well. In this case, the hospital’s policies could be a factor, but that’s less likely than in the past. Most hospitals have no problem accommodating situations like this. They’re happy to help you help the intended parents become a family.
- When the baby is delivered, who will cut the cord, and who will hold the baby first? Often this is some combination of the intended parents. Certainly, this is something they’ll want to consider well before delivery day.
- Will you breastfeed the baby after the birth? Breast milk is the ideal first meal for the baby. It’s a perfect food designed specifically for that baby that includes some natural immunities from the surrogate mother. Some surrogates will pump milk for a bottle for the intended parents. Some do breastfeed the baby at least once in the hospital. Other intended parents are comfortable giving the baby formula right away.
- Where will the baby stay after he or she is born? Certainly, the baby’s parents will want to be with their baby. But the baby cannot leave the hospital right away. Sometimes intended parents are able to have their own room in the hospital. When that’s not possible, they often stay at a hotel nearby. But sometimes, they stay in the surrogate’s room when everyone has agreed to that ahead of time. When the intended parents can’t stay in the hospital, the baby can either stay with the surrogate or in the nursery.
- Will there be photos/videos in the delivery room? While the baby being born is the baby of the intended parents, you are the person giving birth. Discussing ahead of time what kinds of photos or videos might be taken and who will be in them eliminates any awkwardness or surprise at the moment.
- When will you receive your post-delivery surrogate mother fees? Gestational surrogates don’t offer their body to carry a baby for another family for the money. They are most motivated by the joy of helping hopeful parents realize their dreams of building a family. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is a high-paying surrogacy agency, so our surrogate moms know they will be fairly compensated for everything their body goes through during this nearly year-long journey. Still, your case manager will make sure the financial expectations are detailed ahead of time and met at the appropriate time so you and the intended parents can both focus on this new family.
- When will I be able to see the baby again? Many surrogates and intended parents form lasting relationships and stay in touch for life. Some become part of an extended family. Others are more distant but happily provide photos and updates. Some intended parents do not want contact with their surrogates again after the baby is born. At Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado, we encourage at least minimal contact after the baby is born for the baby’s sake, but ultimately, it’s up to the parents. You, as the surrogate, can and should make your wishes and expectations known ahead of time. Talk to the intended parents and come to the agreement that works best for all of you. Our case managers are here to help!
These are a few of the many practical details that your case manager with Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado will help you and the intended parents work out well ahead of the delivery. The key to managing a joyful, successful delivery day for everyone is managing expectations ahead of time.
A surrogacy pregnancy is no different than any other pregnancy in terms of the physical toll on your body postpartum. You’re likely to notice all of the same physical changes as you experienced with any past pregnancy. You may have gained weight or added a few new stretch marks. Most certainly, you’ll have some breast soreness or even engorgement as your milk comes in, then stops producing. Your joints and ligaments can be sensitive for a few months as the hormone, Relaxin, is still in your system. Depending on if you delivered vaginally or by C-section, you may be dealing with any manner of soreness, stitches, tears, and discomfort in personal places. Give yourself time to heal. The baby may not come home from the hospital with you, but the postpartum effects of the pregnancy sure do!
Postpartum, you may experience a confusing array of emotions. Hormones are running wild in your body, and you’re going through an array of conflicting experiences. No question, you’ll feel the absolute joy of watching a new family begin and knowing you helped make that happen. But there can also be a sense of loss that this life that’s been growing inside you for most of a year is now not with you anymore. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado offers several resources to help you deal with the emotional upheaval you may experience postpartum. We have everything from professional counselors to support from other Colorado surrogates via support groups. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone else who has been there.
Many Colorado surrogates describe the impact on their recovery by the reactions of family and friends. The people you consider your support network can make or break your recovery journey by how they respond to it. While Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is there to help and provide support in every way we can, professionally, you will need and want a solid personal support system in the days, weeks, and even months postpartum.
The Delivery and Postpartum is not Easy for Colorado Surrogates, but it is Worth It.
As a surrogate mother, you have given someone the greatest of gifts — the opportunity to be a family. The path of gestational surrogacy is not easy. It can be both physically and emotionally demanding. But in the end, our Colorado surrogates express such joy and honor to have helped hopeful people realize their dreams of becoming parents.
If you have had at least one successful pregnancy and delivery in the past, are of safe childbearing age and think surrogacy might be right for you, contact us to talk about it. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado would love to answer your questions about how to become a surrogate in Colorado.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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