Stop Saying You’re “Giving Up” Your Child For Adoption
Language is important. It’s how we understand why we think what we do, and how we feel about it. As a birth mother, considering placing your baby for adoption may make you feel defeated. It’s an incredibly hard thing to go through, but it is not something to be ashamed of. You need to be conscious of the language that you use when you talk to yourself about your choices, and when you talk with others about them. Unfortunately, being a birth mother is often associated with this idea of “giving up.”
Adoption Choices of Colorado wants you to separate from this phrasing immediately. You are not giving up. You are placing your child into a loving family where he or she will receive a better chance at life.
Placing Your Child in a New Life
Maybe you’re at a point in your life where you’re not ready to be a mother. Maybe you never wanted to be a mother in the first place. Both positions are perfectly valid. However, your life is no longer the only one you have to consider. The wellbeing of your child falls directly in your ability to give them love and care. If that ability is compromised somehow, you may consider placing them for adoption. There are many families who are desperately longing to raise and parent your child.
Choosing adoption and finding an adoptive family is not “giving up” your child for adoption. It is providing your son or daughter with the stability they deserve, and a loving adoptive family who’s ready to embrace them.
Placing Your Child with a Loving Family
Because many hopeful adoptive parents are not able to conceive children on their own, adoption is a wonderful way for those couples and individuals to become parents and start a family of their own. If you are a birth mother, this should be something that you look for when you’re placing your child for adoption. You are giving this family a wonderful gift, and they will be eternally grateful to you for that.
Also, placing your child with an adoptive family does not mean that you’ll never see him or her again. Adoption Choices of Colorado advocates for open adoptions, and our prospective adoptive families are willing to agree to that as well. You may receive letters, pictures or have visits and phone calls. As a birth mother, you are not the primary parental figure, but you get to watch your child grow up into a happy and healthy adult.
Placing Yourself in A Better Position for the Future
If you are in a position where you are struggling financially or with your living situation, Adoption Choices of Colorado is more than willing to help you. We can help you find temporary housing for the duration of your pregnancy. We are also willing to pay your rent and other court-approved expenses up to six weeks after delivery. It is important to us that you feel safe and have a stable environment until you give birth. This can greatly relieve stress and get you through the first portion of your adoption journey.
With our adoption agency, because you have to worry about your basic needs first and foremost, you will be able to apply for jobs and other housing arrangements post birth. This will help put you into a better and more stable position for your future.
Say You’re “Placing Your Child for Adoption” Instead
When you say that you are placing your child for adoption, you immediately feel more empowered. Like you in control and have an important role in choosing who will raise him or her and what their future will look like. This is exactly why we want you to stop saying that you’re “giving up” your child for adoption. There is too much negativity, guilt and shame associated with that concept — none of which applies to you!
Adoption isn’t a sign of defeat or weakness. It’s a labor of love. We want to make sure that you believe that and feel that way each time you think about choosing adoption for your child.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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