Self-Care Tips During Your Unplanned Pregnancy
“Self-care isn’t always chocolate cake and trips to the spa. Sometimes, it’s meal planning, going to bed early, or letting go of a bad friend. It’s forgiving yourself for not meeting your own impossible standards, and understanding that you are worthy. Always. Self-care isn’t just luxuries, but a means for survival. “
– Whole Self Health
Here at Adoption Choice of Colorado, we pride ourselves on providing the most empowering information and advice possible, the most useful tips and tricks, and the best overall support. Over the past few weeks, we’ve talked about the importance of nutrition, exercise and sleep during pregnancy, which are all great places to start when it comes to providing self-care during your unplanned pregnancy. This week, we are talking about self-care. As pregnancy can be very tough on your body, it is paramount that you take care of yourself to ensure the health and safety of you and your baby. Here are some tips about self-care tips during your unplanned pregnancy that you may want to include in your daily regimen. Additionally, we have other resources if you need outside support during your pregnancy.
Self-Care
No matter how you practice self-care, make sure you have healthy and realistic expectations in place. Not only in how you’ll care for yourself right now, but also how you’ll continue to do so post-birth and adoption. Keeping up with a normal routine pre and post-pregnancy will help you stay balanced. It is also important to know what self-care looks like to you, as it is different for every person. There is no right or wrong way to practice self-care during your unplanned pregnancy.
Keeping Up with Positivity
Positivity is essential to a healthy self-care routine and is beneficial in many ways. It helps you maintain a healthy, optimistic mindset and attitude about yourself and your pregnancy. It also helps sustain an uplifting environment pre and post-pregnancy. Keeping positive allows you to weed out any of the negativity in your life, your current environment, your support system or lack thereof, and with your own self-talk.
1. Your Environment
Whether it is your physical or intellectual environment, make sure the spaces you choose to be in are positive ones. That they aid in your positive outlook and self-care routine. For example, there are thousands of mommy blogs, Instagram’s and books that talk about the “perfect” pregnancy. In truth, though, there is no such thing as having a perfect pregnancy, which can breed negative and unrealistic expectations. Instead, be a part of community spaces or support groups you can relate to as a birth mom; therefore, building a healthy, non-comparison environment that supports you during your pregnancy.
2. Who You Surround Yourself With
Not everyone will be supportive or compassionate about your decision to place your baby for adoption and may give you a difficult time about it. Most often, this reaction comes from a place of not understanding. Yet, having an unplanned pregnancy and making the choice to place your child for adoption is an intricate process and unique to every individual. So, in cases like this, it’s completely ok to have a set of responses ready to go. These will provide you with an emotional barrier and a way out of an awkward or unpleasant conversation if need be. Unfortunately, having this exit strategy in place is necessary. But know that it’s also ok and healthy to limit your time around those who do not view your decision positively. Because, if you allow too much negativity into your world, it can cause undo hurt and stress.
3. Self-love and Positive Self-talk
Learning to see yourself in a positive light is an endless journey and requires lots of effort on your part, as well as healthy amounts of support. However, when you have the first two down — putting yourself in a positive environment and surrounding yourself with positive people — positive self-talk becomes a whole lot easier.
In need of some inspiration to boost your self-talk? Try out these suggestions.
- Say out loud every day five things about yourself that are positive or things that you love.
- Get rid of anything that makes you feel negative or comparative about yourself and your pregnancy.
- Talk positively to others about yourself and your pregnancy.
Self-Care Ideas
Along those same lines, here are some ideas on how you can practice self-care during your unplanned pregnancy. This list is non-exhaustive, but can help you become inspired. If you think of something else that would work for you — go for it:
- Practice self-love and listen to your body — whatever that looks like for you
- Journal
- Pray or go to church
- Join support groups
- Pamper yourself — take a bath, get a massage, or get your toes done
- Spend time with others
- Go to the movies or do any other hobbies you enjoy
- Guilt-free napping — don’t feel bad about taking naps; listen to your body and take that nap if you’re tired
- Meet your snuggle quota — your four-legged loved ones can help with this and reduce your stress
- Schedule regular appointments — such as dentist appointments, annual doctor appointments, counseling etc.
Other Resources and Support
Oftentimes, there is an idea that pregnancy is a ray of sunshine all the time; however, a number of birth moms experience prenatal depression and anxiety. If you ever have concerns about these things, or just feel off, make sure to talk to your doctor. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help. At times we all need extra support, so don’t be afraid to seek advice, therapy, medication (as long as it is approved by your doctor), or even support from family and friends — whatever it is that you may need outside of other forms of self-care.
Here at Adoption Choices of Colorado we also provide support in the form of free counseling and other resources such as financial and legal options, adoption plans, etc. We are always here to help, especially when it comes to helping you feel positive about your unplanned pregnancy and the choices you are making.
Self-Care during Your Unplanned Pregnancy
Self-care is an important tool to have in your arsenal. Self-care is imperative to a positive and healthy pregnancy; however, self-care doesn’t have to be a practice that you implement only during your unplanned pregnancy. It can be something that you continue in order to form a lifelong habit.
Adoption Choices of Colorado
Adoption Choices, Inc. is a private, non-profit adoption agency licensed by the state and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive parents in Colorado since 2002. Our staff has a genuine commitment to providing an empathetic, empowering, and progressive experience to all involved in the adoption process. For more information on adoption please contact Adoption Choices of Colorado. We can be reached via our website or phone 303-670-4401.
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About the Author
Taylor Tsakopulos, the bestselling student. She has interned locally in Denver and internationally in Dublin, Ireland, taken classes/workshops and worked odd jobs and yet always comes back to being a student and the desire to learn or create.
She is a jack of all trades (i.e. a Gemini). She is a Denver-based writer, creator, artist and student. A graduate from Metropolitan State University of Denver (MSU).
When she isn’t creating content she’s off dancing and hiking. Always chasing after new things and experiences. After living and working in Europe, she is hungry for more.
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Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!