How to Become a Surrogate Mother: Red Flags in Gestational Surrogacy
By Kyla Helwig
If you are interested in becoming a surrogate, you need to be aware of the possible red flags accompanying gestational surrogacy. A red flag in surrogacy alerts a surrogate mother to a deeper issue. This should often bring a temporary or permanent halt to the process due. Although red flags aren’t common in the surrogacy process, these warning signs are things you should be aware of. In addition, these signs will help you maneuver the gestational surrogacy process to protect yourself and even the intended parents.
1. Lack of Thorough Communication From Intended Parents
Communication is essential for every surrogacy situation. Therefore if the intended parents aren’t forthright with you as you begin the process, this could indicate a deeper issue. You deserve to know exactly what is going on throughout the process and your experience through it. However, if the intended parents refuse to answer any questions, this is also a red flag in communication. In other words, as a surrogate mother, you play an essential role in the surrogacy process. Not understanding what the intended parents want or what they are planning, problems will most likely arise in the future.
2. No Clear Compensation Outlined in Surrogacy Contract
A significant incentive for many surrogate mothers is receiving compensation for their work. This is a major red flag if the intended parents you are working with refuse to outline any specific compensation from the beginning of the process. You need to ensure that the intended parents will cover your related expenses and other needs throughout the surrogacy process. If they don’t establish concrete compensation initially, there is no guarantee that they will give you any in the future.
3. Refuse to Share Their Incentives and Motives
Intended parents need to be eager to care for a child and excited about surrogacy. However, if the intended parents don’t share why they want to have a child, significant problems may lie under the surface. This red flag is important to address. It is vital for you to know why the intended parents want to have a child and make sure that they have pure motives for starting a family to protect the child’s future.
4. Gestational Surrogacy Requirements Not Clearly Outlined
To become a surrogate mother, you will have to fulfill a set of requirements outlined by the surrogacy agency you choose. If you choose to use our agency, Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado, the conditions are clearly outlined in multiple places across our website. However, if the surrogacy agency you are working with refuses to tell you what they require from you as a surrogate mother, that should be a significant red flag. You deserve to know precisely what the surrogacy process will entail. They will also be looking into assessing you throughout the gestational surrogacy process.
Who Can Help Me Stop the Red Flags in Surrogacy and When Can I Start?
To become a surrogate mother, your first step will be to fulfill the requirements. Once you determine if you meet these qualifications, you can apply to be a surrogate mother. If you have any questions about the Colorado surrogacy process or becoming a surrogate mother, don’t hesitate to contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado. Our staff is ready to answer your questions and assist you in any way they can.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, don’t hesitate to contact us here.