Reasons to Choose Adoption as a Birth Mother in Colorado
When facing an unplanned pregnancy, there can be a lot of emotions and pressure to make the “right” decision. It is common for people to be aware of the choices to have an abortion or to parent their child, but adoption is a much less talked about option. If you are a birth mother considering adoption, it is important to understand why birth mothers choose adoption. Having an understanding of the reasons to choose adoption as a birth mother might help you decide whether adoption really is the best choice for you and your child.
Disclaimer: this blog covers the topics of sexual assault and abuse, which may be trigger for some of our readers. But please know that we are here for you, and our agency is a safe place.
Reason 1: Finances
Many birth mothers choose adoption because they aren’t in the financial position to be able to provide for a child. Raising a child requires a lot of time, energy, and yes, money. If you are not in a place to be able to afford the food, clothing, hygiene, and school supplies your child will need over the next 18 years, adoption is an option that allows you to still be in your child’s life without having to be financially responsible for them. Adoption can be a great way to assure your child is provided for while you focus on paying off your debt and/or personal living expenses.
Reason 2: Not Ready to Become a Parent/Don’t Want to Be a Parent
Birth mothers who know that they want kids, but not right now, or simply don’t want to ever be a mother may decide adoption is the best choice for them. Perhaps you are in the middle of school or at a place in your career where you’re not ready to devote the time needed to be a mother. It can be really valuable to be a trusted adult in your child’s life without having to take on the complex role of parent.
Adoption Choices Colorado works with individuals and couples who are ready to adopt. We diligently pre-screens each prospective parent to assure you that your child will be placed with excellent supportive adoptive parents who are ready and excited about the responsibilities of raising a child.
Reason 3: Don’t Have A Support Network
Having a strong support network is crucial to raising a child. Birth mothers who are in new cities, are disconnected from their family, or perhaps have a rocky relationship with their child’s birth father may decide that adoption is the best choice at this point in their life. Adoptions allow for you to be a part of the village that supports and loves your child as they grow up.
Reason 4: Abuse
Birth mothers who are pregnant as a result of rape, or are in an abusive relationship or living situation — whether that be emotional, physical or sexual — may wish to place their child for adoption in order to give them a safe environment to grow up in. Similarly, if you are a survivor of sexual assault or abuse of any sort, you may decide that it is important to focus on your own mental and physical health and healing/recovery, as this kind of trauma can have a lasting impact on one’s life.
If you are currently experiencing sexual assault or domestic violence of any sort, please reach out to RAINN’s Sexual Assault Crises Hotline at 800-656-4673 and/or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE(7233).
Reason 5: Mental Health/Addiction Challenges
Another one of the reasons to choose adoption as a birth mother is if you are struggling with mental illness and/or addiction. It is incredibly selfless and brave to choose to focus your own recovery process and place your child with adoptive parents while you navigate the complexities of mental health and addiction. While birth parents with mental health conditions can make wonderful mothers, active addicts and unmanaged mental health can be a real barrier to providing for your child, so prioritizing your health in these times is an important step.
Reasons to Choose Adoption as a Birth Mother
Ultimately, there are many reasons to choose adoption. The ones listed here are just a few of the most common ones. Adoption Choices Colorado offers free counseling services to help you work through your thoughts and emotions around adoption, even if you haven’t decided on placing your child for adoption. We are here to provide you with the education, resources, and support to make the best choice for you and your child, as well as to help you through the adoption process if you decide that is the best option for you. Placing your child for adoption is a wonderful and selfless choice act that many birth mothers choose in order to give themselves and their child the best life possible.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Kara Bringewatt is an English major and psychology minor at Queens University of Charlotte. She plans to get her masters in social work and work at a nonprofit as a case manager for at-risk youth. She loves using writing as a means of creating community and bringing attention to causes she’s passionate about.
Kara is particularly interested in educational and mental health interventions for young people in foster care. She’s worked as a tutor, professional caregiver, preschool teacher and acting instructor, and loves being able to utilize her wide range of passions to support young people and plans on being a foster and adoptive parent.