Adoption is a major life event for birth parents, adoptive parents, and, of course, the child. There’s a great deal of preparation and anticipation throughout the entire adoption process, and you may start to feel like you’re racing toward a finish line, rushing to give birth or to take the child home. When the adoption is finalized, it almost seems like it’s “over”, but in many ways, the process is really just beginning.
After Adoption: The Birth Parents
Even though careful consideration led you to make the choice that was best for you and the baby, you may still experience a wide range of emotions, including relief, excitement, sadness, or grief. There is no right way to feel after the adoption is finalized – there is only the way you feel, which is absolutely valid. It is important to seek counseling or a support group to help you understand and cope with these feelings. Bottling them inside will only make it difficult to move forward in your life.
Beyond the emotions, it may also take some time after the pregnancy to get back on your feet. You might need some assistance with the physical healing process and going back to work.
After Adoption: The Adoptive Parents
Whether you have other children or not, you know this – life will never be the same after you welcome a new child into your family. This is a wonderful experience, of course, but it also comes with its own set of challenges as you grow accustomed to your role as a parent. Until you are a parent, it can be hard to imagine just how much time you will have to devote to your baby, and just how you will adjust to those sleepless nights. A baby may also change the dynamic of your relationship with your spouse and other family members.
These things take some getting used to, and you may feel some emotions you didn’t expect to feel. This is totally normal, and it is important to embrace and learn from those feelings rather than hiding them and hoping they go away. Just as with the birth parents, there’s no right way to experience this transition, only your way.
Our connection with you as the birth parent or the adoptive parent doesn’t end when the adoption is finalized. We know this process goes beyond the official stamp of approval from the courts.
For birth parents, the ongoing support you experience during the pregnancy doesn’t end when the child is born. If needed, we may be able to help you find housing and pay rent for several weeks after the birth until you are able to return to work. Even more importantly, counseling and support groups are available to you to help you move on and have a successful life. You can take advantage of our counseling and support groups for as long as you need.
For adoptive parents, post-placement supervision ensures both you and the baby are thriving in this new arrangement. These visits are required before the adoption can be finalized, but it can also be reassuring for you as the parents to maintain this close contact with the adoption agency. We are always available to answer your questions, even after the adoption is finalized, and we are happy to connect you with valuable resources to help you in your journey as a parent.
Post adoption services and support are key to a successful adoption process for both the birth and adoptive parents. It helps create a smooth transition into life after adoption. Whether you are a birth parent or an adoptive parent, we invite you to contact us and take advantage of all of the support provided before, during, and after the adoption.
We are also committed to the adoption community and supporting those that need assistance. That is why we started the Tomorrow’s Hope Fund and Donation Center! We help struggling birth parents with badly needed items, children of adoption, and even those hoping to adopt, but have limited financial resources. Please consider joining the community and supporting those going through an unplanned pregnancy, hoping to adopt, and even the children of adoption.