Placing a Child for Adoption in Colorado? Choosing a Single Woman to Adopt Your Baby
Choosing an adoptive parent for your child is a huge decision. You want to make sure that your choice will give your child the happy and safe home you desire for them. Since you aren’t able to parent your child, we know that you want to get the best adoptive parent to raise your child as their own. You have the power to choose exactly who you want to raise your child. This decision can include race, age, gender, and even if they are single or married. There are so many adoption options. You only want the best for your child and choosing the adoptive parents is one of the most important decisions you can make. Choosing a single woman to adopt your baby may be the best option for you, or it may not be. Whatever you choose, that is the best decision for your child, and it is valid.
Here at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we will help you through every step of your adoption process. Every adoption in Colorado is unique, and we want to help you figure out who the best adoptive parent would be for your child. We will help you pick from multiple options of adoptive parents through our database and figure out what the best option is for you and your child.
There are many pros and cons to choosing a single woman to adopt your baby. The pros of choosing a single woman to adopt your baby are that it will be a more stable home, your baby will get undivided attention, and the adoptive parent will be more responsible. The cons of choosing a single woman to adopt your baby are that your child will grow up without both a mother and a father, isolation, and the single mother will not have any emotional or financial support.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
Pros of Choosing a Single Woman to Adopt Your Baby in Colorado
- More Stable Home
Unfortunately, there is a high country-wide divorce rate in the United States, and this can be hurtful to many children in these divorced homes. Children who go through a divorce with any type of parent figure will go through a hard time, so choosing a single mother to adopt your child, divorce will not happen. Your child will be provided with stability in their home. You will not have to worry about your child having to go through a messy divorce and go through that emotional toll it can have on them.Along with this, the single adoptive mother will be the only one raising your child. This means that there will be no other adoptive parent with who she would have arguments and disagreements and have the child be around this harmful environment. Having only one parent will also create less confusion on parenting styles because she will be the only one parenting, and every decision is hers. There will be no conflicting parenting.Another way that a single adoptive mother can provide a more stable home is that single parents usually have higher education and financial stability. This may be great because then you will not have to worry about your child not getting something beneficial to them because of money issues. Your child will not have to watch their adoptive parent go through a financial burden and have an unstable home life that affects them as well.
- Your Baby Gets Undivided Attention
A single woman being able to adopt is a great thing because she will be able to give your baby undivided attention. Your child will have a close-knit relationship with the adoptive single mother because there will be no other adoptive parent and maybe no other siblings. With this undivided attention, your child will feel loved and cared for. He or she will be in a happy home with a single mother and get this undivided attention.There will be no worries about the attention having to be divided between other siblings or other adoptive parents. The quality time that the single mother will give your child will be cherished.Undivided attention will be very important if your child has any disability or special needs. They will need more attention than most children, so having this undivided attention from their single adoptive mother will be beneficial to them as well as if they are older children when going through a lot of changes in their body mentally and physically. This undivided attention will be important.
- More Responsible
Since your child would have a single woman as his or her adoptive parent, your child will be raised as responsible. Since your child is the only other person living with the adoptive parents, they will see all the decisions that are being made and the single mother may even let your child help, too, if it’s a smaller decision like buying a couch for the living room. This will allow her to raise your child to be more responsible at a young age and to be more independent instead of teaching them to always rely on her as they grow up.A single parent works double-time to be two parents for their child. It is hard work. She will teach your child almost everything making them more responsible and teaching them how to handle a lot at a young age. Teaching your child how to plan and handle their actions can help your child become more responsible.
Cons of Choosing a Single Woman to Adopt Your Baby in Colorado
- Your Child Will Grow Up Without Both a Mother and a Father
Today there are so many different types of families with different parent pictures. Yet, you might be wanting your child to have more of the traditional parents, a mother and a father. You might have had that growing up and wanted that for your child, too.If you would rather your child have both mother and father figures raising them, that’s okay. You are able to choose whoever you want to be the adoptive parents for your child. You might want him or her to have a more stable parenting lifestyle with two parents. You might worry that one isn’t enough. That is completely valid.
- Isolation
There are so many pros to having your child’s home be just them and the adoptive parent, but your child could get lonely. Only children with single parents might feel isolated, but on the positive side of this, they could become very independent.Having this isolation may cause your child to have a hard childhood or time growing up. They will have to find activities for themselves to do when their single mother is doing something around the house that doesn’t involve the child. They may feel pushed aside or lonely when they aren’t able to have that time with their adoptive mother.
- The Single Mother Will Not Have Any Emotional or Financial Support
Being a single mother, the only support she will have will be her own. She is independent and will have to raise your child on her own. This can be worrisome in case something happens and she can’t support your child or herself.As a single mother, she won’t have another adoptive parent by her side supporting her and helping her during this new parenting role. She will have to balance work and play with your child, and it can be very challenging. Of course, she wants to give your child the best life possible, but that can be hard being the only parent supporting the family.
Do You Want A Single Woman To Adopt Your Baby?
This is a huge decision, and it affects your child’s life immensely. Unfortunately, there are lots of misconceptions when it comes to single women wanting to adopt. When deciding who you want to adopt your child, you might not even be thinking about single women being an option. In many people’s minds, there are traditionally two parents, but having a single mother is another option, too.
This may be what you would have been if you didn’t choose adoption and you knew that it wasn’t the right time for you to be raising a child. This unexpected pregnancy could lead to you not leaning toward choosing a single woman to adopt your baby because you know how hard that role is. That is okay. If you don’t feel comfortable having a single woman raise your child, you don’t have to choose her to be your baby’s parent. The decision is all up to you.
No matter what you choose, here at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we want to help you through every step. Choosing your child’s adoptive parent is hard, but you know exactly what you want for your child. We know you want the best, so whatever you choose will be the best for you and your child.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!