Myths Behind Transracial Adoption
Race remains a major subject of discussion that crosses into many other social issues. Adoption is no exception, as children of all backgrounds are in need of a home. As a birth mother, there are a lot of things you need to consider before deciding what’s best. If you choose a Colorado adoption, chances are you are thinking about what to consider when picking an adoptive family. Adoptive families will vary in background, so you may have to learn about another culture to understand the mindset of your child’s new family. Some moms are hesitant to place their child with parents of another culture because there are myths behind transracial adoption.
These myths are further proof that our society still suffers from the ills of racial bias. We at Adoption Choices of Colorado believe that it is an important step towards progress would be educating the public about diversity. As individuals, we can’t change others, but we can educate ourselves. As you read through the listed myths behind transracial adoption, think about what else you may need to know about multiracial families.
- Myth: Transracial Adoption is Bad For AdopteesThis is definitely false. The race of the child will not stop loving adoptive parents from caring for them, and neither does it harm the child in any way. Your child will love their parents, and the parents will still love them. In fact, nearly half of all adoptions are transracial, so a mix of cultures is normal within the adoptive community. An adoptive family of a different race will be an opportunity to learn another culture, and they, themselves, will benefit from learning about people different from them. They may have to learn how to do a different hair texture or, in some cases, deal with judgemental peers, but that experience will make them more understanding towards others.The biggest problem adoptees may face the poor handling of identity within adoptive families. An identity crisis on the part of the child is possible as they grow older, but it is not destined to happen. Open-minded adoptive parents will teach your child to appreciate different cultures and develop a strong sense of self-esteem. This will take sustained effort on the adoptive parents’ end, but it is still possible.
- Myth: Other People’s Prejudice Is Their ProblemThe problem with this myth is that humans are social creatures. Other people do affect us whether we admit it or not. You’ve probably heard ignorant remarks from your family when you announced you’re considering adoption for your baby. On the other hand, your child’s adoptive family will have to hear racist comments from other people. Adoptive parents are hurt to see their adopted child discriminated against. It is even worse when their extended family members turn out to be racist. On your end, your own family might have opinions on who you are picking as an adoptive family. Their comments won’t be easy to deal with, and that’s a reality you may have to face.
- Myth: Talking About Race Worsens RacismTalking about race does not worsen racism. In fact, discussions on race are how our society will learn to embrace differences. Your child’s adoptive family will have to learn to embrace your child’s differences, and your child may wonder about their identity. Your child may have to face discrimination, and you will have to learn the adoptive family’s culture. In the increasingly common open adoption, a mix of cultures between the birth and adoptive families will be part of your child’s interactions. Discussing race helps people across cultures understand each other and will help your child appreciate who they are. The adoption process is not easy, but a happy ending is the goal. Your child will be happy regardless of the race of their adoptive parents, so don’t let myths affect your decision.
Breaking the Stereotypes Behind Transracial Adoptions
Adoption Choices of Colorado strives to help birth moms make informed decisions. Learning accurate information leads to the best choices, especially for this very important decision. Each adoption experience is different, and what’s right for one person may not be right for another. Remember that only you can know what’s best for your child, and picking an adoptive family has a lot of considerations. Myths and other people’s judgment can be a stumbling block, but it won’t stop you from finding the right family. Take the time you need to do your research and take each step as you are ready. Adoption Choices is here to help and will work closely to get you the help you need and answer any questions you may have.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the author: Seannea Wharton is a student at Miami University majoring in English. As of now, she is working on her first novel, starting a book blog, and learning American Sign Language. She was raised in a suburban town in New Jersey and has various hobbies such as gardening, cooking, and crocheting. She enjoys learning about a wide range of topics and loves finding new books to read.