Myths about Intended Parents

When kindhearted women are considering becoming a gestational carrier, there are a lot of different things to know. For example, you have to look into whether or not you meet your state’s requirements, whether or not it may be a good fit for you, and much more. Another important thing for you to understand when you are thinking about becoming a gestational carrier is what kind of relationship you want to maintain with the intended parents you are matched with. 

Although there is lots of different information available about gestational carrier and intended parent matches, there are also some common misconceptions that people may believe about intended parents. Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is here to outline some of the key myths about intended parents, as well as some of the truths behind these myths.

Myths about Intended Parents

Some common myths (and truths) about intended parents include: 

Myth #1: All intended parents are dealing with infertility

One of the most common misconceptions about intended parents is that all intended parents are in a similar situation dealing with infertility. While this is one valid reason that many intended parents may seek a gestational carrier to help achieve their dreams of having children, there are many cases of intended parent situations where infertility is not the reason they turned to gestational surrogacy. 

Truth: Gestational carriers can help single parents and same sex couples as well

In addition to heterosexual couples, gestational carriers can help hopeful single parents and same sex couples and individuals as well. Helping intended parents who can’t otherwise have a family is, after all, largely the purpose of a gestational carrier. Single and same sex intended parents seek out gestational carriers for similar reasons that any other hopeful parent does — to have a child who is genetically related to them. They can donate their eggs and sperm respectively, utilize an egg and sperm bank for the missing piece and use IVF to help them experience the joy of children and family.  

Myth #2: Intended parents determine all the terms of the gestational surrogacy

Many people may believe that since intended parents are the ones who will be the parents of the child, they have sole control of the details of the surrogacy. As a gestational carrier, this thought could be quite frightening. However, this conception is indeed a myth. Gestational carriers are able to negotiate surrogacy contracts with intended parents, and surrogacy agencies can help to ensure your rights are met. 

Truth: Gestational carriers have a big say in the surrogacy process

Women who choose to become gestational carriers most likely already understand what it’s like to go through a pregnancy. Because of this, they understand the toll that pregnancy may take on them, and are able to negotiate key factors in the surrogacy contract that is established with intended parents. Surrogacy agencies like Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado can also help to ensure that gestational carriers have legal representation, medical care, and hands-on support throughout the entire surrogacy process. Therefore, if you are interested in becoming a gestational carrier, understand that your safety and needs throughout the process will be taken into account as well. 

Myth #3: Intended parents will not have a strong bond to their child

When intended parents are considering gestational surrogacy as an option for their family’s needs, a common myth is that the intended parents will not have the same bond to their child because a gestational carrier is the one who carried the baby. As a gestational carrier, intended parents may express to you their concern about not carrying their own child. However, this factor does not mean that intended parents’ bond to their child will be any less valuable. 

Truth: Intended parents usually have great parental bonds to their children

Oftentimes, intended parents have been hoping to have children for a while before they are actually able to. For this reason, they likely value the opportunity of having children that gestational carriers provide to them and nourish strong parental bonds with their children. If you are a gestational carrier working with intended parents who express concerns of not carrying their own child, a possible option to help alleviate their concerns is to keep a pregnancy journal throughout the duration of the pregnancy. After the baby is delivered, this journal could be a great, heartfelt gift to the intended parents. 

Are You Interested in Becoming a Gestational Carrier? 

While gestational surrogacy awareness has typically increased in recent years, there may still be some common misconceptions about intended parents. If you are seeking to become a gestational carrier, learning more about intended parents can help to debunk some of the common myths about intended parents and make the surrogacy process more familiar.

If you have questions about gestational carriers, or are a woman who is interested in becoming a gestational carrier, feel free to reach out to Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado. We are able help to ensure that you meet the requirements and will make sure you have legal representation, medical care, and hands-on support throughout the entire surrogacy process. We also have resources to help match gestational carriers with fitting intended parents. Your health and safety is our top priority, and we will ensure that you have the most positive surrogacy journey possible!

If you are interested in surrogacy and want to learn more about your options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

Meet the Author: Ashley Nies is an undergraduate student at Stanford University who is studying Human Biology and Political Science. Ashley is largely interested in various aspects of health and healthcare, and writes about these topics. She has taken classes on rhetoric, ethics and social media in health, as well as other creative writing classes during her freshman year at Stanford. 

Ashley is from Las Vegas, Nevada, and considers herself to be fun-loving and adventurous. She values the importance of combining STEM with liberal arts education and hopes to integrate these in her writing. 

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