When planning an adoption, many parents, both birth and adoptive, have an endless list of questions that they need to be answered. While using an adoption agency is certainly the easiest route to pursue when you’ve made the decision to either place a child for adoption or adopt a child, it doesn’t mean that they always have your best interest at heart. The professionals at an adoption agency are supposed to make you feel comfortable and at ease, and they should be able to address any concerns that you have. When this doesn’t happen, it could give you the feeling that your best interest is not a priority for them. So, what are the signs to look for?
They Make You Feel as if Adoption is the Only Option
When birth parents speak to an adoption agency, they shouldn’t be made to feel as if they have no other option. The parents may be exploring their options, and they may not be 100% committed to adoption. The adoption agency should make it clear that until parental rights are legally terminated, birth parents still have a choice and they should even help you understand all of your options, not just adoption.
The Adoption Agency Makes You Feel Pressured
Birth parents and adoptive parents should never feel pressured when speaking to an adoption agency. If you get this feeling at all, it may be that the agency is not considering your best interests. Make sure you are not feeling pressured to sign any forms or make any decisions until you are comfortable doing so.
They Make Decisions for You
All parents need to remember that they are the ones who make all decisions. If you feel that the adoption agency is making decisions on your behalf, it may signal that there is a larger problem.
You Feel Intimidated
No one should ever feel intimidated when dealing with an adoption agency! The team at an adoption agency should do whatever it takes to make everyone feel comfortable. If you are made to feel uncomfortable in any way, your best interests may not be at the heart of what they’re doing.
They Don’t Give You the Time You Need or Deserve
Planning an adoption is a life-changing process for everyone involved! The experts at the adoption agency need to devote the time to all parents in order to thoroughly answer questions and address concerns, in addition to completely explaining what will happen before, during, and after the adoption. No one should ever feel rushed or feel that they are being a burden on the employees at the agency.
You Don’t Receive the Support You Need
Before deciding which agency to work with, all parents should find out what types of support services are offered during the process. It is important for the agency to offer classes and counseling, even after the adoption process is complete. If they do not, it may not be the right agency for you.
Parents may wonder why an adoption agency may not have their best interests at heart. It may be for a variety of reasons. Birth parents may feel that an adoption agency is not considering their best interests because there is a long list of adoptive parents waiting to be placed with a baby. Or, it could simply be that the employees at the agency are unprofessional. Whatever the reason, no one should ever feel that their best interests are not at heart when working with an agency that is helping with one of the biggest decisions of their lives.
Consider different adoption agencies until you find the one that is perfect for you and your needs. If you have any questions regarding the adoption process, the Adoption Choices of Colorado processes, or any general adoption questions, please contact us! We’d love to help you through this journey!