If I Put My Baby Up For Adoption Will, My Child Hate Me?
Unplanned pregnancy and teen pregnancy can pop up in life without warning. If you are considering placing your baby up for adoption when you’re not ready or don’t want to raise a child doesn’t mean you don’t have the same motherly love as other pregnant women. Adoption is a choice made of selflessness and strength. You’re making the best choice for your child and yourself. At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we can help you every step of the way. Even if you’re still on the fence about adoption, we’re here to help you by providing a support system and adoption resources.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
Adoption Options in Colorado: Things to Consider When Placing Your Baby Up for Adoption
Many modern adoptions have some type of communication component that allows you to remain in your child’s life. Semi-open and open adoption are two of your three choices of adoption to choose from. Having an open or semi-open line of communication can help your child understand why you chose to place them for adoption. As they get older, they’ll be able to ask questions about their adoption story. Depending on the type of adoption you choose, this conversation can be face-to-face, through letters, or over the phone.
Open adoption comes with more options in regards to communication and allows you to communicate directly with your child if you wish. Of course, all of these details will be decided by you when you’re creating your Colorado adoption plan. Prospective families who want and support the means of communication you’re looking for will be matched and made available for interview if you’re interested in them as potential parents.
With everyone on the same page, it will be easier to put up the framework of how you’d like your child to be talked to about their adoption. Framing adoption with positive adoption language will help your child take pride in their adoption story rather than be ashamed or confused. This goes with semi-open adoption. However, a third party will act as the middle ground for communication. There is usually no face-to-face time in semi-open, and most communication is delivered via letters or phone calls.
Setting Up Positive Adoption Conversations
You can still input positive adoption language as a requirement if you are choosing a closed adoption and want your child to know they are adopted. Positive adoption language is important for adoptees to feel connected with their story and understand that adoption does not mean they weren’t wanted. By implementing positive adoption language as a requirement for the adoptive families to use, you can set up a foundation of favorable conversations revolving around your child’s adoption story.
Semi-open and open adoptions in Colorado give you the ability to have the conversation with your child themselves and allows them to ask you questions. Every pregnant woman has different comfort levels regarding what they want to share with their child post-placement. Deciding early on can help you ready yourself for the conversation and questions to come. By the time they are old enough to be curious about their story, you’ll have built a foundation of trust with the consistent communication you’ve chosen. Tell as little or as much as you’d like. It can be nerve-wracking just thinking about having this discussion, but it can be an important one that may impact your child’s view of themselves. Adoptees that grow up around positive adoption language may have higher self-esteem, the ability to speak about their adoption with their peers, and know that they are loved by two families instead of just one.
Counseling Post-Placement
Adoption agencies in Colorado often have resources for pregnant women and birth mothers seeking therapy during pregnancy or post-placement. Therapy is a great resource where you can safely discuss your worries and concerns about adoption. Group therapy can be extremely beneficial, especially if you’re a pregnant woman considering adoption. Hearing stories from other birth moms and their experiences will give you a real inside look at the Colorado adoption process. Sharing similar worries and feelings can be reassuring, too. Don’t worry if you’re worried about your child being angry at you for placing them for adoption. You’re not alone in that fear.
Handling Negative Feelings About Placing Your Baby Up for Adoption
If you’re considering adoption in Colorado and have concerns about what happens post-placement, we’re happy to offer the support and guidance you need. Adoption can be a scary journey. That’s why we’re here. We want to ensure you have the best experience possible during this stressful time. Creating a warm and welcoming environment for pregnant women and birth mothers is our top priority. Contact us at Adoption Choices of Colorado for more information.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!