How Do I Tell My Family I Want To Become a Surrogate?
Choosing to become a surrogate mother is a very big decision to make and is definitely not something to be taken lightly. One of the most important steps to consider when taking on this responsibility is helping your family to be comfortable with the decision. They may have questions, may get agitated or upset, or may just be all around confused. If you fear this may be the case for you, Adoption & Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is here to help provide you with any information you may need about this crucial part of the Colorado surrogacy process.
If you or someone you know is interested in becoming a surrogate, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado.
What Will My Family Want To Know About Colorado Surrogacy?
It is very likely that if you have decided to inform your family that you are going through the Colorado surrogacy process, they will have questions. They may ask you how surrogacy works, what the best surrogate agencies in Colorado are, and if you are using them properly if they can pay a woman to have their baby, or even if they can become a surrogate. This may all be overwhelming for you, especially considering you are already going through a turbulent enough time without their nagging. It is important to take it slow and talk through all of their questions to make sure that everyone is on the same page about everything. If there is any confusion remaining after everyone has come to an agreement on things, Adoption & Surrogacy Choices of Colorado is a good resource to look into to answer any questions you may have.
Listen Carefully, Be Open, and Talk It All Out
It is important to remember that your family is always there for you and will be by your side to support you. Keep that in mind when discussing the Colorado surrogacy process with them. They just want what is best for you, and any reactions and emotions they may have will be out of love and care for you. Therefore, it is important to truly listen to any concerns they may have and talk together openly to work through any problems. Disputes can be solved reasonably by expressing your own feelings and, in turn, genuinely listening to each other’s words. It is important to keep your family in the loop on your feelings and emotions throughout the entire surrogacy process, so it is certainly advisable to talk to them before pursuing any action and keep them informed as the process of being a surrogate goes on.
Reaffirm Your Feelings With Logic and Facts
It is important to balance your emotional motivations with statistical and logical reasoning as well. It is important to work through feelings of insecurity, confusion, or depression by logically going over the surrogacy process. If a partner is worried over the notion of carrying someone else’s baby, reassure them that this is not the case and you are both doing your part to help another couple or family in need. Remind each other that this is being done for selfless reasons and you are assisting others. If you find yourself having to explain the situation to your children, explain it to them gently in a way that is easy for them to understand. Simply explain that you are helping another mommy or daddy and that what you are doing will not in any way change how you feel about them.
Getting My Family Adjusted to Me Being a Surrogate
If you are still unsure whether you will be able to reassure your family and quell their concerns about you being a surrogate, head over to Adoption & Surrogacy Choices of Colorado to get help and more insight on how you can have these conversations. Hopefully, you are feeling more confident about the Colorado surrogacy process and all the complexities of sharing this special moment with your friends, family, and loved ones.
If you are interested in learning more about your gestational surrogacy options, contact Adoption and Surrogacy Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Alex is originally from Clarksville, Maryland but currently goes to Gettysburg College in Pennsylvania. He is an English major and Environmental Studies minor, focusing on Environmental Law and PR/Communications. He has a deep love for writing, grammar, and all things English. He finds the history and etymology of the language extremely fascinating and loves discovering those small, unnecessary grammatical rules that make English such a weird and special tongue. He is also passionate about the environment and wants to focus on doing what he can to help make the world a better place for future generations.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!