How Adoption can Change Your Life as a Birth Mother in Colorado
Learning you’re pregnant is a scary thing, whether it’s a planned or unplanned pregnancy. Your whole life changes the instant you see the positive pregnancy test in your hands. You start thinking about what you’re going to do next and it can be a difficult decision. Is adoption the best option for you? What are the benefits of adoption for a birth mother? Being a birth mother may be a new experience and we want to help in any way we can.
Adoption can change your life in more ways than you think. Many pregnant women like you have found that putting a baby up for adoption will not only relieve you of the pressure of raising a child, but also allow you to grow a new relationship from it. You can have a new beginning, while you watch your child thrive and grow without you having to parent him or her. There are multiple options on what you can choose that is best for you and your child.
It’s Okay if You’re not Ready for a Baby Right Now
When an unexpected pregnancy occurs, it can be overwhelming. You might not be ready for this big pressure in your life yet or ever. You could be in the beginning of your dream career or in the middle of financial pressure. Especially now, during this global pandemic, finances might be tight and it might not be the best time to raise a child. Whatever you are going through, adoption can relieve these pressures for you.
If you find out that you are unexpectedly pregnant, adoption can make you feel not so stressed. You might have a support team by your side — that being the birth father or other family members — but not having the birth father around, especially, can put even more pressure on you. To get that weight off your shoulders, there are many options for adoption. You don’t have to be a single mother, if you don’t want to. You don’t have to be a mother in general right now — or ever — if you don’t want to.
You can Stay in Your Baby’s Life without Being the Parent
You don’t have to give up your life, your career or your goals just because you are pregnant and going to be a birth mother. You might be asking yourself: Will I still be able to know how my baby is after they are adopted? Will I be able to witness their first steps and know what their first word is? When a baby is growing in your own body for nine months, most birth mothers become attached, whether or not they want to or not. It’s natural. The baby was a part of your life for almost a year, and it might be hard to place your baby up for adoption. But, at the same time, it still might be the best option for you. You might wish to know how your baby is even after the adoption process.
There are three different types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed. You have the choice to stay in your child’s life without having to be the parent raising them, or you can always choose to not be involved in their life at all and start yours over. Open or semi-open adoptions might be the best option for you if you want to stay in your baby’s life.
Through open and semi-open adoptions, you will be able to have communication with the adoptive parents and your child. The communication can be as limited as you want. You will not get any unwanted contact you do not wish for. You can be there for your child’s life, whether that be just the beginning or the entirety of it. This can be through pictures, videos, phone calls or letters directly from the adoptive parents. You can also visit the adoptive family and create even more unique bonds together with both your child and the adoptive family.
Having this information about options of how you want the adoption process to be will help you be able to decide what’s best for you. You might just be in a hard time in your life and not have the ability to raise a child right now, but that doesn’t mean you don’t want to still be in their life. That’s why there’s options for birth mothers who have different preferences when it comes to the adoption process.
Healing and Starting Over after Adoption
Pregnancy can be a traumatic experience for some, especially when it’s unplanned. Choosing adoption and letting go can be a great way to heal for you. It’s your choice on what you want to do, and we have many adoption specialists here at Adoption Choices of Colorado who will help you find the best fit for you and your child.
Choosing adoption can allow you to start new and start your life again. Although many say children are a blessing, you may not be in the best place in your life to agree and that’s okay. You can change your mind as many times as you want about what you want to do before the adoption is finalized. It’s all up to you and what you think is best.
Adoption can Change Your Life for the Better
The sky’s the limit when it comes to adoption choices, and it’s all up to you. You get to decide what’s best for you and your child when the time comes, no matter the reason. We want you to have the life that you want. Adoption can change your life for the better, and you will have a strong support team by your side through the whole adoption process. You can go at your own pace through it all.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.