You’ve been matched! A birth mother has chosen you to parent her child. So many happy emotions flood through you as your heart bursts. Saying “thank you” doesn’t seem like enough, though. What more can you do?
Luckily, Adoption Choices of Colorado has compiled ten of the best and simplest gift ideas for birth mothers to help you out.
Whether she’s at the beginning of her pregnancy journey, towards the end, or leaving the hospital to adjust to her new life, journals are simple and thoughtful gift ideas for birth mothers. It can meet her in both happy and sad moments, documenting the process and her every thought.
2. Spa Gift Card
Who doesn’t like a reason to go to the spa? To have time for a nail or hair visit? It’s relaxing, and it’s nice to be pampered every once in a while. Research what spas and salons are in her area, look up the prices for what packages are available, and then get her a gift card to the one that you feel she would like the best.
3. Photo Album
As a birth mother leaves the hospital, she will need pictures of how the baby is doing to help her heal. To assure her that she made the right choice. Giving her an empty photo album can do just this. Before she leaves, be sure to take a handful of pictures for her to look it when she needs. Ones of you all together, and several of her holding the baby.
4. Recordable Book
Additional gift ideas for birth mothers include recordable books. This allows her to record a story for the baby in her voice. It’s a wonderful way for her to feel like she’s connecting with her child, and provides a chance for the baby to hear his or her birth mother’s voice over and over.
5. Aromatherapy Diffusers
Candles and aromatherapy diffusers are very relaxing. They can infuse an entire room with their fragrance and create a peaceful, calming environment. Then, to help her complete her own ultimate retreat space, you can accompany the gift with a book, journal or bath essentials.
6. Adoption Related Jewelry
Jewelry makes for a wonderful keepsake. It’s also a great way to honor the adoption journey. There are many beautiful rings, necklaces and bracelets to choose from. Popular picks include necklaces that symbolize the adoption triad, engraved bracelets and rings that feature the child’s birthstone.
7. Flower Bouquet
Flowers brighten anyone’s day. What’s more, bouquets can be customized to include all of your child’s birth mother’s favorites. This comes in handy, especially if she has any allergies. You can have the flowers delivered, or give them to her in person. If flowers aren’t the way to go, some companies offer bouquets of fruit, cookies or chocolate.
8. Gift Basket
Have you ever received a gift basket? What was your response when it arrived? How did it make you feel? Gift baskets are very versatile. They can be crafted to fit any occasion, which makes them the perfect gift. Plus, they are great gift ideas for birth mothers in particular. Whether you send a fruit basket, spa day getaway, pregnancy gift basket or one that has her favorite tea or coffee, she will feel very special and valued.
9. Keepsake Box
In the first few months, your child’s birth mother will no doubt want updates on how the baby is doing. Nowadays, much of this happens via email or ChildConnect. Yet sail mail may still be a preference for some. If this is the case, she will need somewhere to keep all the letters and updates. Keepsake boxes are wonderful gift ideas for birth mothers in this way.
10. DIY / Personalized Gift
If you don’t want anything store-bought, you may consider crafting something by hand. Pinterest and Etsy are amazing sources of inspiration. Many artists even share the materials they use and offer information on where to purchase them.
Gift Ideas for Birth Mothers
When you are thinking about what to give your child’s birth mother, remember that money doesn’t need to be the deciding factor. In other words, she won’t be concerned about whether or not the gifts she’s receiving are expensive. Rather, smaller and heartfelt gestures are more important and valuable in the long run.
Adoption Choices of Colorado
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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