So much of the adoption journey centers around the birth mother, the child, and the adoptive mother. These three parties are said to make up the adoption triad and be the focal point of the process. Yet, there is one other member who is needed to complete the picture. One who is rarely spoken of, but who still plays an essential role. We are, of course, referring to the birth father. The unsung hero and the largest enigma to the entire adoption journey. The thing is, though, without him, you wouldn’t be holding your new son or daughter. That’s just basic biology.
As you start thinking of what gift to present to your child’s birth mother, Adoption Choices of Colorado encourages you to also consider simple and creative gift ideas for birth fathers. We have a few suggestions to help get your inspiration flowing.
1. Personalized Keepsake
When it comes to creating personalized gifts, the choices are endless. There are the traditional handprint or footprint molds and numerous other adoption-related items to choose from. So, think about what would be the most meaningful to your child’s birth father. What is his personality like? What are some of his hobbies? Perhaps an engraved keychain or mug would be a better fit. Or, if the adoption is finalized around the holiday season — an ornament with the child’s birth date and footprint could be the best gift. Esty offers incredibly simple and creative gift ideas for birth fathers. Be sure to check it out and see what speaks to you.
2. Framed Picture
If you are giving your child’s birth mother a framed picture of her and the baby in the hospital, consider duplicating it with the birth father as well. Capture a moment of him with the baby so that he can carry it with him as he leaves. Even something as simple and small as this can leave a powerful impression, and is another wonderful gift idea for birth fathers.
3. Photo Book
Along the same lines, as your child grows, you can compile a small photo book for his or her birth father. Images from the hospital, the child’s first smile or steps — both big and small milestones. This makes for a treasured gift as it allows the birth father to experience your son or daughter adjusting to his or her new home, and gives him comfort that you are truly the best fit.
4. Grill Set
It is said that a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, so what birth father wouldn’t appreciate the gift of a grill set? Especially if he’s mentioned how much he enjoys cooking, and wishes he had the right tools. Amazon offers many affordable kits that would be good to present to him. Throw in a Grill Master T-Shirt, and he’ll feel like the BBQ King he is!
5. Gift Card(s)
Oftentimes, gift cards can be considered impersonal. But that’s not always the case. In fact, gift cards make for amazing and practical gift ideas for birth fathers. Is there any particular item you know that he needs or wants? Gift cards to gas, groceries or coffee are always good ones. What about blessing him to a night out? Maybe that means getting gift cards to a movie theater or his favorite restaurant. So, even though you aren’t giving him something specific, gift cards can still be very special and thoughtful.
Bonus Gift Idea: Write Him a Note
To accompany your gift, consider purchasing a blank holiday card or stationary and writing your child’s birth father a note. Expressing your sincere gratitude by hand speaks volumes of your respect for him, and is a great way to relay how much you honor his sacrifice and loving decision in choosing you to raise their child.
At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we encourage all of our adoptive parents to pen a handwritten note to the birth parents. It truly means the world to them, and conveys your genuine effort to keep their legacies alive.
Gift Ideas for Birth Fathers
When you are thinking about what to give your child’s birth father, remember that money doesn’t need to be the deciding factor. In other words, he isn’t concerned about whether or not the gifts are expensive or if they are the most trendy brands. Rather, smaller and heartfelt gestures are more important and valuable in the long run.
Adoption Choices of Colorado
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About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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