Fears Birth Mothers Have about Adoption
By Anna Keller
Are you a woman in Colorado who’s facing an unplanned pregnancy? Have you decided that placing your baby for adoption is your best option? Are you unsure of where to start with your adoption plan? Adoption options in Colorado are much more individualized than you may have anticipated. However, Adoption Choices of Colorado is an organization that offers the answers to all your questions about fears birth mothers might have, and we understand that no two plans are the same.
But what will your specific adoption process look like? That depends on the type of family you wish to find for your baby. Private Adoption Colorado is here to help you navigate the process. Adopting in Colorado may sound daunting, but it can be easy when paired with the right specialist. This Colorado adoption agency can help you tailor your experience to find exactly what your baby needs. Private Adoption Colorado ensures you will receive ample assistance finding the right family that meets your needs.
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
Fears of Putting Baby Up for Adoption
To place your baby up for adoption is to demonstrate a powerful love. Just because you are not equipped to parent a child does not mean you do not love them. Private Adoption Colorado will help remind you that although you are not ready to be a mother, you are more than capable of finding the right family for your baby.
One natural fear women working with this CO Adoption agency may have whether the family they pick to adopt their child will love them as their own. You may be worried that the family you pick may appear to check off all the right boxes but will be unable to put their parenting skills to the test. This completely normal and valid fear is exactly why Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help you. The agency offers a thorough matching process, where the birth mother reveals what she is looking for in a family. This includes anything from religious beliefs to how emotionally secure the family is. Ultimately, birth mothers want the family to be able to connect with their child. They want this connection to surpass the basic survival threshold and the child to thrive.
The agency is here to tell you that this is all possible. Due to the detail of the matching process, birth mothers have an ample selection of families to choose from. There are more families that want to adopt than birth mothers who want to place their babies up for adoption. As a result, the odds are in your favor. You have plenty of options to choose from. The likelihood of finding a loving family for your baby is very high.
You’re in Control of Your Adoption Plan
Adoption is a serious thing, and families who undergo the process of adoption do not take it lightly. It is expensive for families, and many women who wish to adopt have tried to bear their children for years. However, these women, and families, are more than prepared to parent your baby. While no two birth plans look alike, they all share one thing: families are excited to adopt. While it is natural that birth mothers worry about this, biology is not necessary to foster a special bond. Adoptive families take this process just as seriously as you do. The connection between parent and child, regardless of blood, is uniquely beautiful.
Additionally, you, as the birth mother, assume the driver’s seat for the entire duration of this process. You call the shots and decide which family you feel most comfortable with. You control where your baby ends up. The agency’s goal is to help you chart this difficult life transition.
How to Create Your an Adoption Plan
The agency’s website offers some tips on creating your adoption plan. One example is writing down your boundaries on paper, so you don’t forget them. Creating boundaries is crucial for your adoption plan. It can be easy to get swept up in the charm of a family and forget about your boundaries. Consequently, you may find yourself agreeing to a family without having strictly talked about your limits for your child. Another helpful reminder is that this process must not be rushed. It may feel as though you must have everything sorted out before your due date, but that is only a myth.
In our agency, you will not only find a family that meets your criteria, but with whom you can connect personally. There are many families out there that try for years to adopt before finding a birth mother. How fortunate is it that you have such a large pool of options to choose from at any point during your pregnancy? It may feel overwhelming, but you do not have to make this journey alone. The Colorado adoption agency will connect you with a mentor who will help you tackle the emotional side of this journey. You have nothing to fear, even if you are only in the beginning stages of your adoption process. Private Adoption Colorado is here to help.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!