7 Difficult Aspects of Placing a Baby for Adoption in Colorado

By Isabelle Bryan

For birth mothers considering adoption in Colorado, you likely know there isn’t the easiest road ahead of you. From determining how to give your baby up for adoption to saying goodbye, adoption comes with several difficulties. But we at Adoption Choices of Colorado are here to help. Our trained staff will guide you through every step of your adoption and beyond. Here are seven difficult aspects of child adoption in Colorado and how we can help you through each of them.

1. Choosing an Adoptive Family During an Adoption in Colorado

An important part of your adoption plan is choosing an adoptive family for your child. You may want the adoptive parents to have specific careers, live in a certain area, or be first-time parents. You may even decide to consider religion, sexual orientation, or whether or not the prospective parent is single. 

All of this can seem a little daunting, but you won’t be alone in your task. You’ll receive more than just adoptive parent profiles to peruse if you find you need assistance. Our trained caseworkers can help you determine any specific criteria and narrow down the list of prospective families. After that, you’ll be able to meet with the adoptive family and form a personal opinion about them. 

Another important factor is the kind of adoption you choose. Our adoption agencies in Colorado offer open, semi-open, and closed adoptions. Each form of adoption comes with its pros and cons. Making your choice depends on the level of contact you want with your child and the adoptive family. You can discuss each option with your caseworker in order to make an informed decision.

2. Lacking Support During the Adoption Process

While both personal and professional support are important, we know that not everyone has the luxury of having both. Some people may have neither. Depending on your social situation, the support of family and friends may not be available to you. Financial hardships may prevent you from getting professional assistance. 

While we cannot help you build friendships, we can help you get personal and professional support. Our adoption agencies in Colorado provide counseling to birth mothers at no cost. We also provide you with the opportunity to attend free monthly birth mother support group meetings. These gatherings give you a space to share your experiences with others who can empathize and offer support and compassion. You can even attend virtually, depending on your preferences.

3. The Difficulties of a Holiday Adoption in Colorado

While the holiday season can be a time of joy, it can also be a time of great anxiety. And the potential worry and stress of pregnancy and placing your child for adoption may only make it worse. For those lacking a support system, feelings of isolation may only intensify. You may even feel more anxious about the adoption itself should questions arise about whether plans can still go forward. 

But good planning can make a world of difference, and both travel and birth plans can still happen. And you’ll never have to worry about us leaving you to fend for yourself during the holidays. We’re open year-round, so you’ll always be able to ask for whatever support you need.

4. Pregnancy and Delivery During Your Colorado Adoption

The first step to getting through pregnancy and delivery is making a birth plan. For those who are struggling or who simply want another pair of eyes, we can assist. Our adoption professionals will help you look over your options and make the best decisions for your overall well-being. This plan includes the hospital you want to be at and who you want to have in the delivery room.

The financial aspect of pregnancy and giving birth may also be a concern. But for eligible birth mothers, our adoption services include assistance with rent, utilities, and groceries. Additionally, if insurance doesn’t pay for medical expenses, the bill is covered by the adoptive family.

There are other ways to be prepared as well. Consider these options:

  • Put together a hospital bag well ahead of time
  • Consider taking childbirth classes
  • Care for your body and mind by eating healthy and getting exercise
  • Try yoga or meditation to relax 

5. Saying Goodbye to Your Baby During a Child Adoption in Colorado

After the delivery, you’ll have to decide if you want to hold your baby. You may also, potentially need to decide if you want to name them. Both of these decisions can be made during the process of creating your birth plan. 

For those who think they will find it difficult to say goodbye, consider choosing an open adoption. You may have had to give up your child, but that does not mean you can’t have some form of connection. An open adoption may also allow you to connect with another potential source of support: the adoptive family.

6. Experiencing Grief Following the Adoption Process

The process of saying goodbye to your child may be the catalyst for grieving. Unfortunately, this grief may not end with the adoption. 

Talk to our counselors and support groups. Remind yourself of your reasons for placing your child for adoption. You likely took time to make the decision, so remember that you made the best choice you could. It may seem hard now, but with personal and professional support, you can work towards healing.

7. Experiencing Anger After a Child Adoption

Maybe you hit a financial rough spot and don’t have the resources to care for a child. Perhaps you’re struggling with addiction or homelessness. You may even already have a family and know you can’t support new additions. Or maybe you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and feel too unprepared to be a mother. Whatever your reasons, we will never judge you for placing your child for adoption. 

But that doesn’t mean you won’t judge yourself, and we’re here for you if you do. Deciding to place your child for adoption may be one of the hardest decisions you’ll make. But remember that you’re trying to give your child the life they deserve. Additionally, remember that you need to make the choice that’s right for you. 

Beginning the Adoption Process with Adoption Choices of Colorado

As a licensed private Colorado adoption agency, we’re here to support you throughout the entire adoption process. You’ll never be left to puzzle through decisions on your own. Additionally, you don’t need to worry about being left to fend for yourself after the adoption is finalized. Our assistance remains at your disposal.

The adoption process brings with it many difficulties, but we’re here to help you overcome all of them. The more you plan, the less likely you may be to overstress down the line. Take advantage of every resource you have, including the time to make the best choices possible. Then, plan with our experts to make sure you get what you need. If you would like to learn more about your options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text.

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