Denver Adoption and the Holiday Season
The holiday season has begun, and for most, it’s a time of joy, but for you, it might not be. Whether you are going through the Colorado adoption process or you have just completed your adoption journey, the holiday season can cause you more stress, and you can be dealing with more grief. These emotions can be heightened for you because of the emotions that come with the holiday season.
At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we understand that the holiday season can cause you elevated levels of stress, grief, and depression which is why we keep our offices open during the holiday season. We are here to aid you and support you in Denver and across Colorado.
Dealing with Post-Placement Grief
The holiday season is typically a time where families get together to celebrate. This time can be extremely emotional for a birth mother who made the difficult decision to proceed with a Colorado adoption. During this time, they can be thinking of what might have been if they did not go with the adoption process. They can be imagining how their life would look at this time being able to celebrate with their child. You can be having these thoughts as well, which can bring on unbearable pain. This can cause you to question the adoption process and your adoption plan. These thoughts can also cause you to feel resentful to the adoptive family that your child was placed with. It is okay for you to be feeling these feelings. Other birth mothers experience the same feelings, so it is not uncommon.
During this time, it is important that you do what you can to take care of your mental health rather than holding all of these emotions and feelings in and carrying them with you. Our adoption services, which include post-placement counseling, are open during the holiday season, where you can make an appointment with one of our counselors, and you can work through your grief and emotions together.
Another option you can look into is a post-placement counselor who specializes in helping birth mothers deal and work through the emotions that come with post-placement. Adoption Choices of Colorado is partnered with Lifetime Healing.
Lifetime Healing is an organization that specializes in providing post-placement care for birth mothers who have gone through the adoption process and placed their child with an adoptive family. If counseling is not for you or you want to try something else to help cope with the feelings you’re having, there are birth mother support groups. Lifetime Healing provides support groups on the second Monday of each month for birth mothers. You can also look into other support groups in your area. There is no one better to help you work through what you are feeling than other birth mothers. They have extensive knowledge of the Denver adoption process, and chances are they have experienced the same feelings and emotions that you are experiencing. A birth mother support group can be a great comforting resource for you, especially during the holidays.
If You Have an Open or Semi-Open AdoptionTry Reaching Out to the Adoptive Family
If your Denver adoption plan and situation allow it, do not be afraid to reach out to your child and the adoptive family. You can do this by sending them a holiday-themed card or greeting. This can be a nice way for you to let your child know that you are thinking of them and that they still mean a lot to you.
If you are in a situation where you are not able to send something to your child, there are a few other options you can go with to honor your child. You can donate to a charity in your child’s honor. Depending on what holidays you celebrate at this time of the year, you can also light a candle or hang an ornament as a way to pay tribute to your child.
With Adoption in Colorado Alway Remember to Take Care of Yourself
It is important that you are not so hard on yourself, especially during the holiday season. Mental health is very important, so give yourself time to relax and destress your mind. If you are in a situation where you are struggling financially, remember we can help. Adoption Choices of Colorado has resources and services in place to assist you. These include and are not limited to support with rent, groceries, utilities, and any other necessary expenses.
We are here for You During the Holidays
The holiday season is never easy for birth mothers. The time of joy and happiness that families experience never goes unnoticed by birth mothers, which can elevate the emotions they are dealing with. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to assist you and support you during the holiday season if you are struggling. Do not hesitate to reach out to us for help. We are here for you and are ready to do what we can to aid you during this holiday season.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
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