Considering Open Adoption with Gay Adoptive Parents

If you are a birth mother considering gay adoptive parents, you may be wondering if what an open adoption will look like. But, don’t worry, open adoption with gay adoptive parents looks just like any other open adoption!

Open adoption plans allow for you to choose the type of ongoing contact you want to have with your child and their adoptive parents. You will work closely with your Adoption Choices of Colorado adoption caseworker and chosen adoptive parents to create a plan that best suits you and creates the family you desire for your child.

Choosing Gay Adoptive Parents

Talk to your Adoption Choices of Colorado caseworker if you are considering choosing gay adoptive parents. Opening up this conversation will allow you to look through the prospective adoptive parents who’ve been pre-screened by our adoption agency. It will also help you narrow down what things you value in choosing your child’s adoptive parents as you review the profile books. Your adoption caseworker will then guide you through your options and conducting interviews.

Just as in any adoption process, focus on what you want your child’s life to look like. Ask questions and don’t feel like you need to compromise on what’s important to you. At the same time, keep in mind that no adoptive parent is going to be perfect. Choosing your child’s adoptive parents is a big decision, and there are gay adoptive parents of all backgrounds and beliefs to consider.

The Adoption Process in Colorado

Once you’ve chosen your child’s adoptive parents, the next step is to formalize your plan alongside your adoption caseworker. Talking through your preferences and getting your open adoption agreement down on paper will help reassure you and clarify the expectations of all parties involved. Be sure to also include any specific questions you want to ask your child’s chosen adoptive parents when you meet them. With an open adoption, it’s essential that everyone is on the same page.

Unfortunately, we can not legally require your child’s adoptive parents to adhere to these agreements. It is, therefore, deeply important to establish a good rapport with your chosen adoptive parents throughout the process. Cultivating this bond will reinforce the stability and harmony of the family you are all creating.

Post Adoption with an Adoption Agency in CO

After the adoption has been finalized, you may be wondering what an open adoption with gay adoptive parents actually looks like. This depends largely on the agreements you and your child’s adoptive parents have decided on together. For instance, you may receive occasional updates from your child’s adoptive parents, visit once a year, or be in contact more regularly. Your relationship with your chosen adoptive parents and your child will unravel according to the level of contact you desire.

Some birth mothers desire to be an active part of their child’s life and family, while others know that what’s best for them is to be in less regular contact. Regardless, if you choose an open adoption with gay adoptive parents, you can be sure your child will be loved and provided for in every way they need.

Considering Open Adoption with Gay Adoptive Parents

Open adoptions are beautiful processes that allow you to place your child for adoption, while still maintaining a relationship with him or her and their adoptive parents. Your adoption process, choosing your child’s adoptive parents, creating your adoption plan, and agreeing to an open adoption is exactly the same when choosing gay adoptive parents as it is for any other type of adoptive family.

Adoption Choices of Colorado is committed to serving all families and is here to support you in creating the open adoption you desire.

If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.

Meet the Author: Kara Bringewatt is an English major and psychology minor at Queens University of Charlotte. She plans to get her masters in social work and work at a nonprofit as a case manager for at-risk youth. She loves using writing as a means of creating community and bringing attention to causes she’s passionate about.

Kara is particularly interested in educational and mental health interventions for young people in foster care. She’s worked as a tutor, professional caregiver, preschool teacher and acting instructor, and loves being able to utilize her wide range of passions to support young people and plans on being a foster and adoptive parent.

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