One of the most selfless things a parent can do is place his or her child for adoption. Prospective birth parents should be fully supported and encouraged along the way when making such a loving choice. Here is a list of six great books that prospective birth parents or adoptive parents may want to read before, during, or after the adoption process:
- Birthmark by Lorraine Dusky (1979-11-01). Lorraine Dusky was the first birth mother to write a book for birth mothers. She expounds beautifully on what a woman goes through in placing her child for adoption. She writes in great detail about the heartaches and joys one experiences during the adoption process and how you can have the courage to place someone you love so much with an adoptive family. Although the book was originally written in 1979, readers have said it is still relevant today in describing the way a woman feels when she decides to place her child for adoption.
- The Other Mother: A Woman’s Love for the Child She Gave up for Adoption by Carol Schaefer, (2013-08-17). This book has a similar title to Lorraine Dusky’s book, but it is an altogether different journey that will make you laugh and cry. This is a beautifully told story of some of the struggles a woman may encounter when she chooses to place her child into a loving adoptive home.
- Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birth parents, and Adoptive Parents by Jean A.S. Strauss (1994-06-01). This book is a must-have for all adoptive parties. It will prepare you for any and all outcomes of a potential reunion with a birth parent.
- Journey for the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness by B.J. Lifton (Basic books, 1994). This book is deeply meaningful and gives tips and insights for adoptees that you may not find anywhere else. It can be extremely insightful for birth parents and adoptive families as well though.
- Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter by B.J. Lifton (1975-11-03). This is another great book about adoption by B.J. Lifton who is a talented and thought-provoking author who knows her subject and and is not afraid to tell it like it is.
- Synchronicity and Reunion: The Genetic Connection of Adoptees and Birth Parents by Lavonne H. Stiffler (1992-01-01). This book is wonderfully well-written and gets excellent reviews, however it is currently out of print and has become a collector’s item. Unfortunately, that makes it hard to find and expensive to buy. It should be included in this list though as it is enlightening of the relationship and connection between birth parents and the child they placed for adoption. If you happen to come across a copy, it is highly recommend you pick it up.
Whether you are making the decision to adopt a child or deciding to place a child with an adoptive family, you are making a difficult choice. We understand these choices are not taken lightly. That is why we recommend you take the time to read all the quality educational adoption materials that you can get your hands on before you decide. Placing a child for adoption and adopting a child both take strength, courage, and a whole lot of love. However, quality educational materials and honest testimonies from people who have been in your shoes can really help.
If you or someone you know is struggling to make one of these tough decisions we are here to help in any way that we can. Our caseworkers and team can help walk you through the entire process and even recommend additional educational resources to allow you to make the best decision for you, your family, and the child. No matter which situation you’re in, our team is willing and able to assist.