Choosing a Single Man to Adopt Your Baby in Colorado
When an unexpected pregnancy occurs, you may not be in the right place to raise a child. That’s where adoption comes in, and you can choose who you want to raise your child when you can’t. This decision could conclude with you choosing a single parent, a single man even, to adopt your child. It could be the best decision you make for your child.
If a single parent isn’t what you desire for your child, that’s okay! You have so many options when it comes to adoptive parents. You can choose whoever seems the best for your child. This can be single or married adoptive parents.
Here at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we want to help you pick adoptive parents that you would want to raise your child. You get to decide everything throughout your adoption process. You can choose adoptive parents from their relationship status, age, gender, and even personality. There are so many options for you. Your adoption caseworker will help you through everything.
Choosing a Single Man to Adopt Your Baby in Colorado Pros
There are many pros to choosing a single man to adopt your baby in Colorado. Stability, no conflicting parental demands, and undivided attention. These all will help your child grow in a stable and healthy family environment.
- Stability
Unfortunately, there have been high divorce rates in the last few years. This could affect your child greatly if you choose a married couple to adopt your child and they separate. Choosing a single man to adopt your child will decrease this worry for your child’s mental health. Divorce can affect a child and their mental health growing up. It can cause a high rate of depression because he or she will have to go through that with their adoptive parents. Not having this be a possibility can create stability for your child with a single adoptive father.
Your child will only have a single adoptive father and will have that one person in their life in the household. They will be able to feel safer and trust their adoptive father easier when it’s just him. Your child will have a stable home life, exactly what you want to be able to give them.
- Single-Parent Freedom
The single adoptive father will be the only one in charge. He will be the only one raising your child, which allows less confusion when having one parent. Your child will not have conflicting parental demands. If you choose a married couple to be your child’s adoptive parents, they may not always see eye to eye on how to raise your child. This may make your child confused and not know who to listen to when given demands. The single adoptive father who you may choose will be fully in charge of your child. This will eliminate all conflicting parental demands.
- Undivided Attention
Depending on your child’s age or if they have special needs, having a single adoptive father as their parent will allow the undivided attention they need. Having this undivided attention will help your child grow, and they will always have the adoptive father by their side, supporting and caring for them. If they have special needs, undivided attention is a necessity, and single adoptive fathers can be the best choice for this. As your child grows older, they will need this undivided attention as they go through puberty and have more struggles as a teenager.
Choosing a Single Man to Adopt Your Baby in Colorado Cons
There are a few cons when it comes to choosing a single man to adopt your baby in Colorado. These could be unstable home life without a mother and father, no emotional or financial support, and isolation. These could make your decision and could make you worry for your child and become stressed.
- Unstable Home Life Without Both a Mother and Father
Having a single man as your child’s father will only give your child that father figure in their life. They will not have a mother. This could affect the way your child grows up, both negatively and positively. Only having an adoptive father, your child will not have the same experience as other children do with two parents. They won’t see how they interact with each other, and they won’t have those two different unique relationships with two parents. This can be where having two adoptive parents may be the better option for you.
- No Emotional or Financial Support
Your child’s single adoptive father will be the only one earning money to support himself and your child. This can be worrisome in case something happens to his job, and he doesn’t have another adoptive parent alongside him to support the family.
Being a single man parenting your child, he will not have the emotional support that most parents have with their significant other by their side every day. He may have parents or friends who can be there for him, but it may not be the same as having that support live with him and help raise your child. If the single adoptive father has a lot of emotional instability, this could affect your child’s growing up, especially if it affects his job and income, which he doesn’t have any support with.
- Isolation
Unfortunately, since the single adoptive father is the only one supporting your child, they will have to work many hours to make sure your child has everything he or she needs. This can affect your child mentally and emotionally. They will feel alone, and they might have a hard time because they will feel this way. They may feel isolated in this environment of a single adoptive father, which can be a concern you may have.
Although your child may have that undivided attention from the single adoptive father, they may feel isolated when the adoptive father goes to work. This will be hard on the child being in this environment. They will have to get used to being alone some hours of the day due to their single adoptive father making income for the both of them.
Is a Single Father the Best Choice for Your Child?
Choosing the adoptive parents for your child is a hard decision. Adoption may have been chosen because you can’t be the parent for your child, so you have to choose an adoptive parent who will be exactly who you want to raise your child like you wish you could.
Understanding the pros and cons of choosing a single man to adopt your child is important. This is one of the biggest decisions of the adoption process. This affects your child greatly, and giving him or her that healthy and stable family life that you can’t give them is so important.
We want to make sure you know all of your options for your adoption plan at Adoption Choices of Colorado. So is a single adoptive father the best choice for your child? Connect with a caseworker today and begin your adoption process. They will show you all of your options and help you through making your choice.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Molly Allington is an aspiring author born and raised in Syracuse, New York. When she’s not watching her latest Netflix obsession, you can find her nose deep in a book or in her writing. She has been writing books since she was twelve and is in the process of trying to get her finished books published. Molly has a BA in Creative Writing from Southern New Hampshire University. With her writing, she is hoping to share supportive information and help as many people as possible. Once she starts her own family, she is wanting to adopt.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!