Can I Place a 2nd or 3rd Baby for Adoption?
By Kaitlyn Chrisemer
You may find yourself unexpectedly pregnant again after already going through this once or twice. After choosing adoption, you may be considering adoption again this time. Likely, your beliefs and feelings about unplanned pregnancy options haven’t changed much. If you’re looking into a private Colorado adoption, we can help. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help birth mothers with CO adoptions regardless of their circumstances. If this is your first or if you’ve already placed a baby for adoption, we’re here for you. Regardless of whether this is your 2nd or 3rd baby up for adoption, know that adoption is always a choice.
Can I Place Another Baby with the Same Family?
The main question you may be wondering about is if you can place another baby with the same adoptive family. The answer is a tentative yes. We’ll get into several different factors later, but the simple answer is yes. It is possible to place another baby for adoption with the same adoptive family you’ve already placed a child with.
Benefits of Placing Another Baby with the Same Family
There are a few reasons you may be considering placing another baby with the same adoptive family. One is that the children will grow up as biological siblings. This may give them a sense of comfort and belonging with one another as they grow up. In addition, navigating the world as an adopted child can be difficult and confusing. It may help to have each other as an anchor as they process what can sometimes be difficult feelings.
Another benefit is that you’ve already selected and worked with this family. If you felt comfortable enough with them to place one child there, why not another? Placing them with the same family will ensure that you feel confident they’ll be loved and cared for. Finding an adoptive family you feel is right for your child can be hard. Doing so more than once can prove even more difficult. This way, you won’t have to scour potential adoptive families until you find one you feel good about.
Contacting the Adoptive Family
If you are already in contact with the adoptive family, feel free to reach out and ask them what they think. However, if you aren’t in contact with the family, we can help. We can reach out if your first adoption was a private adoption in Colorado with our agency. Our records will tell us which family you worked with before, and we can contact them. If your first adoption was with a different agency and you aren’t in contact with the adoptive family, that’s okay. Reach out to the adoption agency and explain your situation. They’ll be able to help.
Communicating and Planning with the Adoptive Family
It’s important to understand that the adoptive family may not be ready to raise another child. If they don’t feel able to adopt this new baby, we can help you find another wonderful adoptive family. Being ready to adopt one child doesn’t mean they’ll be looking to adopt more.
However, if they are ready and willing to adopt the new baby, there is planning to be done. You should communicate with them and ensure everyone is on the same page. Make an adoption plan for this baby with their help. Planning can help the adoption process go smoothly and ensure everyone is comfortable.
Additionally, if you want visitations, ensure they know this and are okay with it. Make an agreement with the family so that boundaries aren’t blurry and lines aren’t crossed. If you plan to stay in contact with and visit the kids, ensure you don’t show preferential treatment. You should spend the same, or about the same, time with each kid and make sure one doesn’t feel neglected. This could feel like a second abandonment and make them think you don’t care for them as much.
Choosing Adoption Again with Adoption Choices of Colorado
If you want help with a private adoption in Colorado, reach out. We will do our best to make sure you are comfortable throughout the process. If you want to place another baby with the same adoptive family, we will try to make it happen. Although we can’t guarantee anything because of uncontrollable factors, we can promise we’ll take care of you.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!