Can I Place a 2nd or 3rd Baby for Adoption?
By Kaitlyn Chrisemer
You may find yourself unexpectedly pregnant again after already going through this once or twice. After choosing adoption, you may be considering adoption again this time. Likely, your beliefs and feelings about unplanned pregnancy options haven’t changed much. If you’re looking into a private Colorado adoption, we can help. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help birth mothers with CO adoptions regardless of their circumstances. If this is your first or if you’ve already placed a baby for adoption, we’re here for you. Regardless of whether this is your 2nd or 3rd baby up for adoption, know that adoption is always a choice.
Can I Place Another Baby with the Same Family?
The main question you may be wondering about is if you can place another baby with the same adoptive family. The answer is a tentative yes. We’ll get into several different factors later, but the simple answer is yes. It is possible to place another baby for adoption with the same adoptive family you’ve already placed a child with.
Benefits of Placing Another Baby with the Same Family
There are a few reasons you may be considering placing another baby with the same adoptive family. One is that the children will grow up as biological siblings. This may give them a sense of comfort and belonging with one another as they grow up. In addition, navigating the world as an adopted child can be difficult and confusing. It may help to have each other as an anchor as they process what can sometimes be difficult feelings.
Another benefit is that you’ve already selected and worked with this family. If you felt comfortable enough with them to place one child there, why not another? Placing them with the same family will ensure that you feel confident they’ll be loved and cared for. Finding an adoptive family you feel is right for your child can be hard. Doing so more than once can prove even more difficult. This way, you won’t have to scour potential adoptive families until you find one you feel good about.
Contacting the Adoptive Family
If you are already in contact with the adoptive family, feel free to reach out and ask them what they think. However, if you aren’t in contact with the family, we can help. We can reach out if your first adoption was a private adoption in Colorado with our agency. Our records will tell us which family you worked with before, and we can contact them. If your first adoption was with a different agency and you aren’t in contact with the adoptive family, that’s okay. Reach out to the adoption agency and explain your situation. They’ll be able to help.
Communicating and Planning with the Adoptive Family
It’s important to understand that the adoptive family may not be ready to raise another child. If they don’t feel able to adopt this new baby, we can help you find another wonderful adoptive family. Being ready to adopt one child doesn’t mean they’ll be looking to adopt more.
However, if they are ready and willing to adopt the new baby, there is planning to be done. You should communicate with them and ensure everyone is on the same page. Make an adoption plan for this baby with their help. Planning can help the adoption process go smoothly and ensure everyone is comfortable.
Additionally, if you want visitations, ensure they know this and are okay with it. Make an agreement with the family so that boundaries aren’t blurry and lines aren’t crossed. If you plan to stay in contact with and visit the kids, ensure you don’t show preferential treatment. You should spend the same, or about the same, time with each kid and make sure one doesn’t feel neglected. This could feel like a second abandonment and make them think you don’t care for them as much.
Choosing Adoption Again with Adoption Choices of Colorado
If you want help with a private adoption in Colorado, reach out. We will do our best to make sure you are comfortable throughout the process. If you want to place another baby with the same adoptive family, we will try to make it happen. Although we can’t guarantee anything because of uncontrollable factors, we can promise we’ll take care of you.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.