Whether you are a birth mom or adoptive mom, there are days you need a pick-me-up, a reminder or something to ground you that makes you feel like you’re doing your best as a parent for your child and for yourself.
Here at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we support and celebrate all moms. The month of May is all about celebrating birth moms and adoptive moms, especially with Birth Mother’s Day and Mother’s Day just ahead. In lieu of that, we have put together a collection of affirmations and quotes that can be used daily for what best suits your needs.
Concern for the happiness and needs of others versus one’s own.
Being a mother is a selfless act. Whether you are a birth mom or an adoptive mom, you constantly put your child first. You don’t do it because it is what’s best for you or because you want to look like a hero, but because it’s the best thing for your child. At times, being selfless brings many emotions and decisions to the table, and, in times of great adversity, we need reminders or signs of faith.
Here is a list of reminders and quotes of what being selfless is and what it equates to:
- “A birth mother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.” – Skye Hardwick
- “If you looked up requirements for adoption (as if it were a job), strength would be required. The strength to give and the strength to receive. The strength to know that even though there is heartbreak…there is hope.” – Joniece, birth mom
- “Every single minute matters. Every single child matters. Every single childhood matters.” – Kailash Satyarthi
- “A mother always has to think twice. Once for herself and once for her child.” – Sophia Loren
- “Let us sacrifice our today, so that our children can have a better tomorrow.” – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
- “The hardest decisions we make are often the best decisions we make. It just takes a little while to feel their benefits. But, just like flower seeds in the soil, they show themselves at the right time.” – Butterflies and Pebbles
- “Adoption isn’t a birth mother’s rejection, but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby.” – Mary Hines, birth mother
- “There are two different kinds of strength. There’s the strength to make a parenting plan and then there’s the strength to give that plan to another.” – Unknown
- “In the months before I gave birth, when my boyfriend and I were just getting to know the couple we had chosen, I was able to comprehend the coming exchange only on the most theoretical of levels. But it seemed like gentle math: [a] girl with [a] child she can’t keep, plus [a] woman who wants but can’t have [a] child. Balance the equation, and both parties become whole again. During those months, my son’s mother, Holly, observed that birth mothers have to accomplish, in one day, the monumental task of letting go that most parents have 18 years to figure out.” – Amy Seek, Open Adoption: Not So Simple Math
Happiness and Love
The presence of positive feelings and the absence of negative feelings.
At times, as birth moms and adoptive moms, you lose sight of the happiness and love you are bringing into the world or establishing. It gets lost in the logistics of life – bills, rent, preparing for the baby, groceries, etc. Take a moment. Close your eyes. Remember what your common goal is — to provide all the love and happiness for your baby.
Here is a list of quotes to remind you that being a mother doesn’t just automatically mean happiness and love. After all, you are only human.
- “There is only happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” – George Sand
- “Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, and it need not be deserved.” – Erich Fromm
- “For when the child is born, the mother is also born again.” – Gilbert Parker
- “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, and penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou
- “If no pain, then no love. If no darkness, no light. If no risk, then no reward. It’s all or nothing. In this damn world. It’s all or nothing.” – Glennon Doyle Melton
- “In the end, we discover that to love and to let go can be the same thing.” – Jack Kornfield
The capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change.
A reminder to birth moms and adoptive moms alike that your child benefits and learns more from the examples you provide, the actions you take, and the choices you make within your own life.
Here are several reminders that perhaps you are the one who is also benefiting and learning from most from these examples and experiences:
- “While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” – Angela Schwindt
- “Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding is the third.” – Marge Piercy
- “Life is the flower for which love is the honey.” – Victor Hugo
- “The merit of all things lies in their difficulty.” – Alexandre Dumas
- “You must never be fearful about what you are doing when it is right.” – Rosa Parks
Defined as a specific person or group of people.
Here’s a very large reminder to birth moms and adoptive moms that your family does not have to follow a cookie cutter outline. All families look and function differently. Family is defined by whatever you choose it to be. However, there is always love and continuous learning and growing from all parties.
Here are some quotes to remind you that there are no rules as to what constitutes family:
- “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but respect and joy in each other’s lives.” – Richard Bach
- “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” – Oprah Winfrey
- “Giving birth does not make a mother. Placing a child for adoption does not make her less of one.” – Unknown
- “It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two (or more) individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, and commitment for a joint future. You become a family not because you share the same genes, but because you share love for each other.” – Joan McNamara
- “They may not have my eyes. They may not have my smile. But they have all my heart.” – Unknown
- ”Adoptive Mom? I am Mom. I need no other label or prefix.” – Joanne Greco
- “[Adoption] carries the added dimension of connection not only to your own tribe but beyond, widening the scope of what constitutes love, ties, and family. It is the larger embrace.” – Isabella Rossellini
- “We should not be asking who this child belongs to, but who belongs to this child. – James L. Gritter
Perhaps these quotes can be daily reminders and affirmations you are able to reference when you need them most. As always, at Adoption Choices of Colorado, we are here to support you and celebrate you. However, we celebrate all moms every day – not just on their designated days twice a year
There’s more to come when celebrating Birth Mother’s Day and Mother’s Day. Look for our next blog that gives you the inside scoop on self-care tips and ways to treat yourself during this special time!
Adoption Choices of Colorado
Adoption Choices, Inc. is a private, non-profit adoption agency licensed by the state and leader in the adoption community. We have been assisting birth parents, children, and adoptive parents in Colorado since 2002. Our staff has a genuine commitment to providing an empathetic, empowering, and progressive experience to all involved in the adoption process. For more information on adoption please contact Adoption Choices of Colorado. We can be reached via our website or phone 303-670-4401.
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