An Introduction to Adoption as a Birth Mother
You are in a pretty tough situation that may be hard to deal with. You have a child, but unfortunately, do not have the capacity to care for them at this time. You may not know where to even turn to start looking for solutions. Yet, despite all the overwhelming things you are feeling — confusion, stress, anxiety, fear, panic — there are processes in place to help you out.
Feel free to take a breath and ease you mind because you are not alone. In this day and age, probably one of the easiest things you can do first is explore the internet for an adoption agency. Adoption Choices of Colorado is just such an agency where we have plenty of resources to help you find an introduction to adoption as a birth mother.
I Like Being Organized. How can I Create an Adoption Plan?
The answer is yes! Many times, birth mothers going through the adoption process for the first time are worried that they will not have a grasp on a full, cohesive adoption plan for their child. However, a lot of things are centered around you and your wishes. Your influence will be felt through almost every part of the adoption process, so that you feel comfortable and have a say.
Adoption Choices of Colorado in particular offers counseling, birth plans, and detailed information about potential adoptive families. That’s just a small amount of what is available to you as you go forward. We recognize that adoption can be emotionally draining, so that is why we aim to support you before, during, and after the adoption process. You decide what you need for yourself and your child, and we will do our best to assist you.
I’m Afraid of Sharing My Decision with Friends and Family. What Should I Do?
There are certainly negative statements associated with adoption, which is a real shame because many adoption stories are success stories! You don’t need to think of adoption as sad or force a positive spin on it because, in many ways, adoption is already a positive thing if you allow it to be. You are doing what is best for your child, and that’s ultimately what everything comes down to in the end.
If you are able to get past the unfortunate stigmas surrounding adoption, you will hopefully be able to find people close to you that also share your positive views on the process. Your introduction to adoption as a birth mother will, undoubtedly, be an introduction to adoption for other people in your life, too. Find solace in those who want to do the right thing and support you on your adoption journey. They are out there.
How Do I Face my Biggest Fear that I will Never See my Child Again?
Okay, this is an important question, but it also brings up a lot of falsities about adoption. Contrary to a lot of movies you may have seen, or historical pieces you may have encountered that deal with adoption, the adoption process is not so full of bleakness.
Now, you could have a closed adoption, which is really for birth mothers who want to move on with their lives, but that’s not a terrible thing if you believe it will benefit your health and your child’s health. There are also more open adoption types where you can see your child from time to time, which often comes as a surprise to pregnant women who have never gone through the adoption process before.
When you sit down and choose an adoptive family, you also have the right to choose whether or not the adoption itself will allow you to see your child. A completely “cold turkey” adoption situation will never be forced on you.
What Should I Do Next Now That I’ve had an Introduction to Adoption?
Well, you know where to head at this point for initial information, and that’s such an important first step. Adoption Choices of Colorado can give you an overview on their website of some other adoption facts and Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs). When you are ready, you can contact our adoption agency and get more into the detailed specifics you likely want to structure your schedule and life accordingly.
The most important things to remember are that you are not alone and there is help waiting for you. Many other birth mothers have had introductions to the adoption process and gone through it smoothly. You will as well. There are so many sources of support at your disposal.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the Author: Nathan Dyer is a university student majoring in Communication Arts with a radio/TV/film focus. He enjoys writing professionally and dealing with hands-on problems in real-world scenarios. Among his hobbies is hiking, which always encourages him to explore new places. He looks forward to crafting written materials in the future that serve to help people from all walks of life.