Your new son or daughter is finally joining your family. All that’s left to do is fill out the birth certificate. Sounds simple enough, right? You take the pen, your heart swelling with excitement. Unexpectedly, you pause where it says: child’s name.

Your soon-to-be son or daughter already has a name from their birth mother. But…that secures their identity to another family. A history and origin that isn’t yours. Joining your family means a new future. Should you rename them to reflect that?

Why the Change?

The first thing to determine when considering a name change is “why?” What is the motivation and reason behind it? While names aren’t necessarily permanent, it’s still a big decision and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Names equal identity and can either help or hurt your child in the future. With adoptees, names can also be links to their past. So, you want to be sure before making anything official at the end of the adoption process.

A good reason to change your adoptee’s name is, of course, if it’s a matter of security and protection. If your child came from a sensitive or unsafe background, it’s smart to sever that link — especially if their birth family could have access to their name or social security number. This can happen sometimes with foster adoptions.

Renaming a child from an international adoption is another common reason. Uniqueness in a name is indeed special, but if culturally it’s going to be difficult to pronounce or spell, choosing a name that eliminates this struggle is good. The same goes for names that are truly odd or ones that could cause your child to be teased or bullied later on.

Arguably, the most prevalent reason to change an adoptee’s name, is the desire to have a fresh start. To give them a name that signifies their new life with you and helps them best fit into the culture of your family. Perhaps the name was one that was specially picked out for them, or one that holds symbolic meaning. This reasoning is seen across all types of adoption, with adoptees from birth to childhood.

An Adoptee’s Age

This perfectly segways into another factor to consider when changing an adoptee’s name — their age. Understandably, if the child in question is between the ages of birth to two years, they won’t be able to express their desires or thoughts on the issue. So, it’s solely up to the adoptive parents to either pick the perfect name or keep the child’s birth name.

However, if the child is old enough to understand, it would be good to involve them. They may want to have a say on their new name, and even suggest one or two that they like. If they aren’t sure, consider orchestrating a trial period where they “try on” their new name. See how it fits. How it affects them. Watch their reaction. Leave the lines of communication open at all times, so they can state their opinion. If for whatever reason the name change doesn’t end up sticking, the trial period allows an easy transition back to their original name or another selected name without the legal hassle.

To Change or Not to Change

At the end of the day, deciding whether or not to change an adoptee’s name is a personal choice. There are pros and cons to consider, and some risk, depending on your adoptee. For instance, an older adoptee may construe a name change as you wanting to hide their past and may then feel like there’s something about them that you’re ashamed of. That’s why it’s very important to communicate with them and explain your reasons.

If the concept of a complete rename doesn’t sit right with you, consider a happy medium. Instead of changing their whole name, what if you only altered either their first or middle name? That way, your child keeps part of their original birth name. This usually happens in adoptions where the adoptive parent and birth parent get to co-name the child.

Another option is to keep their original name and only alter their last name.

Something that is often overlooked is that adoptees have two names anyway, because there are two birth certificates generated for them.

Two Birth Certificates

At birth, the hospital will create an “Original Birth Certificate” that contains the child’s birth information. This will include: the birth mother’s name, the birth father’s name ( if known), the date, the place and time of birth and the child’s original birth name. Post adoption, you will receive an “Amended Birth Certificate” that will have similar information. However, instead of the birth mother and birth father’s names, it will state the name of the adoptive parents.

An adoptee will only have access to one of these birth certificates — the amended one. Depending on the adoption, of course. With closed adoptions in particular, an adoptee will not have access to their Original Birth Certificate until they are 18 years old. After this, they can request to see it from the courts, and learn their original birth name.

For tips on when and how to share your child’s adoption journey, be sure to check out this article.

An Adoptee’s Name

With changing an adoptee’s name, there is no right or wrong decision. It truly is a personal choice. Wanting to give your child a new name post adoption is a natural and healthy thing. So, whatever the ultimate decision — have fun! It should be a process that enhances the joy and excitement of your adoption journey.

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About the Author

Rachel RobertsonRachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2018, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.

In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc. in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.

When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.



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