Placing a baby for adoption is undoubtedly one of the hardest decisions that anyone will ever have to make and it requires a lot of thought and preparation. The adoption process of placing your baby is a long road full of decisions that need to be made, medical tests, and legal procedures.
If you’ve decided that it is best for you and your child to place him or her for adoption, there are several steps along the way that you should be familiar with and ready for. Let’s dive into what you can expect from the adoption process and how to navigate it.
Being Sure Adoption is the Right Choice
There is no doubt that deciding to place a child for adoption is a tough decision, possibly the most difficult decision of your life. It’s important to talk through all of your options and come to a final decision on whether or not to go the adoption route. When you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, there are several options at your disposal and adoption truly is a loving and positive option to consider.
We recommend talking through the decision with the father and your family. We also have counselors that are available to help support you through the entire process.
Adoption is a big decision and it’s important that you take your time in making it.
Birth Father’s Consent
In order to place a child for adoption in Colorado, the agency must get consent from the birth father as well as the birth mother. If you don’t have contact with the birth father or are concerned that he won’t consent, don’t worry! You don’t have to deal with this on your own. Our legal team will handle getting consent from the birth father in whatever way we are able. The more information you are able to give the legal team, the easier it will be for them to deal with the birth father.
Creating an Adoption Plan
No two adoptions are truly the same. We work closely with birth mothers and birth parents in order to satisfy their needs in the process and our team helps to create an adoption plan to help the process progress smoothly and comfortably.
It’s important to ask as many questions as you can during this process. Help set your plan up successfully by asking your caseworker questions and voicing any concerns that you have throughout the process.
Considering and Matching with Adoptive Families
The next step is to consider what kind of family you’d like to raise your child. There are likely over a million individuals and couples of all different origins, family styles, and backgrounds looking to adopt. It’s important to think about how you’d like to see your child grow up and who you envision as the best kinds of parents to raise him or her. We work with all individuals and couples (regardless of age, sex, sexual orientation, nationality, color, creed, and religion) and we want to help you get matched with the perfect family for your baby.
During this process you’ll want to narrow down your preferences prior to reviewing prospective adoptive family profiles. Pay close attention to all the profiles you are given so you can be sure to make an educated decision and feel comfortable with your baby’s new family.
The Legal Process
The adoption process is not a simple one. There are plenty of steps and milestones that have to be reached in order to officially place your child. The process can be intimidating, but we work directly with you through every step of the process. Our agency believes every birth parent should have independent legal counsel who can competently explain your legal rights before you make a permanent choice.
Financial assistance for a pregnant mother is available during and shortly after the pregnancy to help the birth mother with pregnancy related expenses. These expenses may include items such as medical costs and expenses, rent, food, transportation, phone, sundries, and maternity clothing. These are given on a case-by-case basis according to need. Adoption Choices of Colorado has a “Donation Center” where gently used items can be found to aid birth families as well. Please contact our office if you need assistance with any items at our center during or after your pregnancy.
Staying in Contact
Placing your child for adoption does not mean a forever “goodbye”. More and more birth mothers are staying in contact with the adoptive family, getting regular pictures of the child, and even having in-person visits each year to see their child grow up. Adoption is about giving your child the best chance to succeed and the best situation for a successful life. It doesn’t mean that you can never see how they grow up or what they grow up to be, we encourage you to stay in contact with the adoptive family, and vice versa.
Choosing adoption is a difficult decision and the process is a long one, but in many situations involving an unexpected pregnancy, it’s a very loving and positive decision. We highly recommend counseling through the process to support your decision and your well being during pregnancy, giving birth, and adjusting post-adoption.
Ready to learn more about the adoption process and how it would work for you and your baby? Our team is ready to help! Learn about the process and even contact a birth parent caseworker today!