Adoption Isn’t a Bad Word
When you think of the word “adoption,” it may make you feel confused or even uncomfortable, especially if you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. This may be due to the traditional, societal implications and stigmas associated with adoption that make adoption sometimes difficult to talk about or even consider if you are a pregnant woman who does not want their baby. Adoption isn’t a bad word, nor should it be a secret, though. Family dynamics are changing, and familial bonds are created through love and effort, not just through a biological bond. For parents who can’t or don’t want to take care of their child, adoption provides the parents and child with a new chance at a future. Adoption is a chance to change a hopeful family’s lives by blessing them with your baby.
At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we understand that considering adoption when you are unexpectedly pregnant can be daunting, so we want to be there for you to answer any questions or hesitations you may have. Even if you’re only considering it as an option, you can still talk with our staff to get help.
In the 21st century, many changes have happened and are happening. One of those changes is the family dynamic. Adoption has been steadily growing in numbers since 1990, and it’s no surprise because adoption has many benefits. One of the best benefits of adoption is that it provides prospective families with a child they can raise as their own.
The traditional family dynamic has changed drastically over the last century, so you shouldn’t be ashamed of adoption. When you think of the typical American family dynamic, you think of a mother and father with their children. However, this model has changed as divorce, remarriage and cohabitation increased, and as a result, there is no singular dominant family model in the US. The family dynamic has changed, and so have notions of adoption as people are more open to embracing the fact that it’s okay to have an atypical family model.
Of course, many people think family comprises only those who are biologically related to you, but that’s not true. However, this definition disregards the people in your life who love you unconditionally that you may consider to be a part of your family. As such, a family should be defined as the people you love and love you unconditionally because family is made. It is not something that magically happens without putting the effort in first.
Being Open About Adoption
Of course, adoption is not an easy process. There are many emotional hurdles that come along with adoption, but you don’t have to go through it alone. It is important to acknowledge these hurdles so that if you do choose to go through with the adoption, you know what to expect. It is also important to discuss the difficulties surrounding adoption because being secretive about these issues makes adoption seem taboo. By being open about these topics, we can destigmatize adoption.
One of these hurdles that many people don’t talk about is dealing with loss. You will experience loss in the form of your child and a parenting role. To help you, Adoption Choices of Colorado does provide counseling during and after the adoption process because we understand that dealing with loss alone is difficult. When you make an adoption plan, you can also choose to have an open adoption, which will allow you to maintain some form of contact between you and your baby.
Another aspect of adoption that makes it so taboo in our culture is the feeling of shame and guilt experienced by the birth parents who have chosen to put their baby up for adoption. Shame and guilt are felt because people feel as though they are “giving” up their baby, but that is not the case. Adoption is providing your baby with a new future that will be filled with a loving family and a safe home. Adoption is a chance to create a wonderful future for you and your baby.
There are many hurdles involved with adoption that make it difficult to talk about, but we should be open about these things. Being able to talk about these difficult topics will help destigmatize adoption and dismantle the myths that surround adoption.
Another way we can destigmatize adoption so that it isn’t perceived as a “bad” word or a secret is to be open about the adoption process. As a Colorado adoption agency, Adoption Choices of Colorado has staff willing to answer any of your questions about the process, and we provide many resources online that will help you understand the process better.
The first step of the adoption process is to get into contact with our staff, and afterward, you will be working closely with a birth parent counselor who will be able to advise you every step of the way. During the entire process, you are in control of everything as the birth parent counselor is simply there to keep you informed and to help you with paperwork.
While working with your birth parent counselor, you will create an adoption plan, which is where you will map out what kind of adoption you want to have. If you choose an open adoption, then a line of communication will be established between you and the adoptive family you have chosen for your baby. One of the most important steps is to then choose the adoptive family, and you will have the chance to reach out to different families to get to know them better. You will also be encouraged to create a birth plan, which is where you will write out your preferences when you deliver your baby.
Dismantling the harmful notions and stigmas surrounding adoption can be difficult, especially if it has been hardwired into you because of the society you grew up in, but it is not impossible. Making an effort to understand how adoption is beneficial and how it can help certain people will greatly reduce its stigma. At Adoption Choices of Colorado, we are proud to be a part of the effort to destigmatize adoption by providing resources to help those who don’t understand adoption.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the author: Victoria is a sophomore at the Georgia Institute of Technology, and she is currently a Literature, Media, and Communications major. She currently runs her own blog, where she shares her poetry and creative writing projects. When she is not working or studying for school, she is often reading or writing, as she seeks to pursue a career in writing.