You’re sitting in your bathroom, anxiously wringing your hands as the seconds tick by. Precious seconds that could alter the future course of your life. Then, when the time is right, you gear up the courage to look at the pregnancy test perching on the countertop. To come face to face with the results.
Slowly, you turn your head and peer into the tiny digital screen.
The moment of truth…
Mixed emotions and a swirl of thoughts no doubt arise the instant following the results. As realization of pregnancy sets it, the brain can experience numbness or shock. Even a wave of terror. But — there is good news.
You aren’t alone, and there are options available. Three, to be exact. You can either continue the pregnancy and become a parent, terminate, or make a plan for adoption.
It’s important that you research each option thoroughly and that you don’t make any quick decisions. Also, be sure to call your doctor or OB/GYN to make an appointment. This can help determine how far along you are in the pregnancy, and what your next steps should be.
Making a Plan for Adoption
Local adoption agencies are good resources if you want to make a plan for adoption. Adoption professionals will be a guiding light throughout the process. They are trained and equipped to help you traverse the countless emotions that are associated with adoption.
You have the freedom to customize guidelines that best outlines your wishes, including what kind of parents you want for your child. In addition, whoever the adoptive parents end up being, they can be as involved or as uninvolved as you want them to be. It’s all based on your comfort level.
If you’re unsure where to find good adoption agencies, consider Adoption Choices, a non-profit organization devoted to helping birth parents, children and adoptive parents. Adoption Choices have offices all over the United States including, but not limited to: Colorado, Nevada, Texas, Kansas, Arizona and New York.
The leader in the adoption community, Adoption Choices of Colorado, has been proudly serving birth parents, children and adoptive parents since 2002. We are licensed by the beautiful state of Colorado, and are a private, non-profit adoption agency. Each member of our staff is wholeheartedly dedicated to providing an empathetic, empowering and progressive experience to all involved. In everything we do, our talented and experienced team of adoption professionals strives to deliver the most successful placements.
We understand that making a plan for adoption is not an easy decision or process, and want to offer our assistance. From beginning to end, we will ensure that you are 100% comfortable with what we are doing, and that you and your child stay healthy and are both taken care of. Counseling and legal representation are available to you at no cost. Adoption Choices of Colorado provides a great support system and a wealth of resources. Your future, health, safety and success is important to us.
Working Out Logistics
Making a plan for adoption does require you to hash out some important details. It may reveal some pieces of the process that you hadn’t yet considered. For instance, once your child is born, would you be comfortable having the adoptive parents come and visit you in the hospital? How involved do you want them to be throughout the journey leading up to the birth? Do you want to meet them at all?
The type of adoption you choose is completely up to you. It isn’t fair for anyone to determine that except for you. Choosing between open and closed adoption is a very personal choice. So is deciding what kind of adoptive parent you’d like for your baby.
What about financial assistance? Depending on the state you live in, there is almost always financial assistance programs available. Adoptive parents may also be permitted to help with this. Most often, they will be able to assist with any pregnancy-related expenses such as: medical bills, maternity clothes, living expenses or transportation.
Be sure to speak with your adoption professional or agency and ask what programs and information are available to you in your area.
Have a Support System
Any pregnancy, whether expected or not, is a unique and personal journey. It can be really scary, too. Processing and accepting that you are pregnant, and moving into the decision to make a plan for adoption is definitely not an easy or simple one. However, establishing a strong support system around you will help. Connect with friends and family who you know you can trust, rely on, and who won’t pass judgment. Those who will walk with you no matter what option you choose.
Another means of support could be through seeking professional help. Finding someone who will be an objective third-party to help you further deal with the emotional aspects of your journey. The fears and moments of self-doubt. The guilt. Disbelief. Everything that comes with a surprise pregnancy and making a plan for adoption.
Counselors can also remind you to take time for yourself throughout the journey.
Tips for Self-Care
It’s essential that you take care of yourself during your pregnancy. As aforementioned, part of this is making an appointment with your doctor or OB/GYN as soon as you can to determine the plan moving forward. They are the ones who best know your history, and will be able to provide the most effective advice on what you should and shouldn’t do. From the time of your first visit, your doctors will be sure to monitor your symptoms and want regular measurements of your weight and blood pressure. These, along with possible blood and urine samples, help track your personal health and the well-being of the baby.
Be sure to discuss with them any concerns you have about returning to work, exercising, or any current medication management. If you unsure about anything, ask in your appointments or send them a message through the ever-convenient online patient portals.
For best practice, ensure that you eat a healthy and balanced diet. Try and avoid foods like meat, eggs and fish and monitor your sugar and caffeine intake. More than ever, make sure that all your food has been properly prepared, cleaned and cooked before eating. This will only improve your journey through pregnancy.
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of Colorado. We can reached via our website or our phones: 303-670-4673(HOPE).
Impacting the Adoption Community
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with CrowdRise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more. But, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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