6 Wonderful Reasons to Place Your Baby for Adoption
There are a variety of courageous reasons birth moms have when putting their baby up for adoption. Sometimes people may question your decision and try to make you feel bad about it. Other times they simply might not understand why you’re making such a decision. Either way, it doesn’t matter what others are saying. It is you who matter! Your decision will always be the ultimate decision. That’s why we at Adoption Choices of Colorado recognize that any reason a birth mother might have to choose adoption is a valid one! No matter what reason your decision to consider adoption is, you should be proud of coming this far. Below is a list acknowledging six wonderful reasons birth moms consider whne they place a baby for adoption.
- You don’t want kids. As simple as that! There’s a number of reasons you might not want kids. Yet, sometimes life throws unexpected curveballs our way. This may be an unplanned pregnancy for you, and that’s totally fine. An adoption is a great option in this case. Some reasons why you might not want kids can be because you want to focus on your education or career. Or you personally didn’t have the best childhood growing up, so you never envisioned yourself as a parent. “Oh, you’ll change your mind” or “kids are wonderful!” are some phrases you may have heard. A lot of times, people forget that starting a family is a very big decision to make. Unfortunately, some people take this for granted. They are quick to assume that every couple or every woman will have a kid at some point. But that is for you to decide. If you don’t want to keep your baby, then the adoption options in Denver, CO are a great option!
- You can’t afford to have kids. Kids are expensive! Constantly having to buy diapers, baby formula, clothes they keep growing out of, and toys they won’t even remember using. But the expenses don’t just end there. Then they start school, and you have to buy school supplies, backpacks. Once they reach a certain age, they’ll start imitating other kids. They’ll want things their peers have. And it goes on and on and on. Keep in mind all of your other expenditures occur simultaneously, such as rent/mortgage, car payments, phone payments, electricity and water bills, etc. If you can’t afford to raise a baby, this is completely understandable. Placing your baby for adoption is a wonderful way to offer the child a family that is able to afford those expenses. They would be better able to give your baby the life it deserves. By doing this, you are putting all of your wants and needs aside to selflessly provide a better life for your baby.
- You don’t want to terminate your pregnancy. Even though this may be an unplanned pregnancy for you, abortion may have never been an option on your mind. And that’s okay! Terminating a pregnancy can be an extremely difficult and even painful decision to make. That’s why if you are looking to give birth to the baby but won’t like to keep it for various reasons. An adoption is a great option for mothers like you! This way, you’ll be able to bring the baby into this world and place your baby with a loving family.
- You want your baby to have a loving family. It’s a difficult reality to cope with. But, a lot of times, you might not be in a situation to give your baby a stable household with two parents. Such as, you may have an abusive partner. Or maybe you don’t have a stable job or housing situation. This is all a part of life. But, what will happen when the baby arrives? In such a case, you would be putting your child’s life at risk by keeping them if you wish for your baby to have a family with two parents, for example. It might be a better decision to opt for adoption. This way, you’d be able to find a loving family that can raise your baby well.
- Your baby has a disability. However, this is an absolutely valid reason to consider adoption. A lot of times, mothers are made to feel guilty about it. That’s why it’s important to remember that raising an able baby presents so many challenges. Any such challenges are heightened when trying to raise a special needs child. The expenses can be much more as well. If you relate to this, then there is no need to feel guilty about your situation. Many adoptive families are looking to adopt a special needs child for their own reasons. This creates a perfect situation for you to be able to place your baby for adoption. At the same time, adoptive parents welcome your baby into their family.
- Your health comes first. You might have become pregnant at an unexpected age or stage in your life. It’s possible you might not have the mental or physical capacity to raise a baby if you don’t have support from friends and if a birth mother is overcoming addiction, this can also play a role in her decision to place her baby for adoption. This is absolutely understandable. You’re putting your baby’s health first, as all mothers do.
Choosing To Place Your Child for Adoption with Adoption Choices of Colorado
The Colorado adoption process is the perfect option to provide your baby with parents that are completely healthy and capable of raising a baby. Throughout the adoption, we at Adoption Choices of Colorado will help you find adoptive parents who are willing to raise your baby with the utmost love and care. The two things that you desire for your baby’s future. These are just some of the reasons birth mothers consider adoption. Regardless of what reason may be behind your decision to adopt. It’s crucial to recognize that every reason is valid. Always remember the ultimate decision is yours. So, although it’s normal for feelings of guilt to arise. Know that you are making a decision that is best for your baby. When birth mothers decide to place their child for adoption, it is rooted in utter selflessness. Remember, you are putting your baby first!
If you need adoption help now, please call or text us at 303-670-4673 (HOPE) or visit us at Adoption Choices of Colorado.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about your adoption options, contact Adoption Choices of Colorado by email, phone, or text: Email Us, Text us: 720-371-1099, Call us: 303-670-4673 (HOPE). If you are hoping to adopt, please contact us here.
Meet the author: Ifrah Mohammed. Pursuing a Communications-Journalism Bachelor’s degree at Siena College, she is an aspiring content writer. A hard-working daughter of immigrant parents, she was born and raised in Queens, NY, and has resided in Fort Worth, TX. Her passions include writing and traveling. Moving around has allowed her to gain valuable perspective. When she is not writing or traveling, she is baking or reading. She currently resides in
Schenectady, NY, a town 30 minutes away from Albany.
Stephanie joined the Adoption Choices family in 2014 as the Child Placement Supervisor. Her love for adoption began in first grade when she made friends with twins adopted from Vietnam. Her heart grew strong over the years for adopted children and ultimately led her to graduate school where she continued her focus to her dream of working in the adoption field. Stephanie earned a Master of Social Work degree from the University of Denver in 2001. Over the past 15 years, Stephanie has worked as a pregnancy counselor and as an adoptive parent counselor for foster care, international adoption and domestic adoption, writing hundreds of home studies for families, and helping build their forever families. Stephanie is married and has three boys ages 12, 9, and 5. Together with her family she enjoys riding bike, playing games, watching her three sons compete in their various sporting and musical activities and go on vacations.
Christy Ikeler, is our Executive Director and Birth Parent Director. Christy has been with Adoption Choices Team for 18 years, since opening the doors in 2002! Christy has a true passion for what she does and her true love is working with and helping each birth parent. Whether she is up all night on the phone talking with them, taking them to doctors appointments, out for their favorite treat, providing counseling or at the hospital during labor and delivery, Christy is very involved every step of the way. She has a contagious laugh and a spunky personality that our birth moms all can bond with and relate to. As an adoptive parent herself, adoption holds a very special place in her heart and she can relate on every level with both birth parents and adoptive parents. In her free time Christy loves spending time with her daughter, gardening, baking and taking vacations with her family. Christy is an excellent leader for our team at Adoption Choices and is truly one of a kind!! As Executive Director, Christy spends time with the staff, birth parents and adoptive families in order to ensure that the agency is running smoothly. She has placed a huge emphasis on community outreach and programs for birth parents. Christy loves the opportunity to lead the agency into a brighter future.
Ms. Mackenzie has built a successful counseling career over the past 20 years, supporting mothers and families, people of all ages and genders, students, community professionals and fellow clinicians. Liv values a diverse professional focus, including the entrepreneurial life of a sole proprietor, the evaluative process of certifying foster/adoptive homes, the insightful and mindful one-on-one one work with enthusiastic clients, and serving as an advocate for underserved populations. Liv is a Licensed Professional Counselor and holds a BA in Pre-Law and Economics from American University, an MA in Counseling from Adams University and a certificate in Human Resource Management from Villanova University. Away from work you will find Liv spending time in nature, biking to the farmer’s market and adventuring with her family.
Catherine A. Madsen, joined the Adoption Choices family as legal counsel in 2013. Catherine is responsible for providing legal guidance to the Agency, training and updating staff on developments in adoption law and legislation, and program development. Catherine
Virginia Frank is an adoption attorney accredited since 1991 with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. Ms. Frank is a leader in the field of private adoption and has completed over 4,000 adoptions in her career. Ms. Frank has a law degree from Oklahoma City University and a BA in both Political Science and Communications from the University of Oklahoma.
Cassidie has been with Adoption Choices since 2015, she has her bachelors in Interdisciplinary Affairs with concentrations in both Sociology and Business Management. Cassidie has additional training in Victim Advocacy, foster care and has been working in women’s services for over 10 years. Cassidie has always had a heart for adoption and it was her career dream to work in adoption. She started off doing volunteer work for advocacy programs, adoption organizations and worked in High Risk Maternal Fetal Medicine through the University of Colorado Hospital and Children’s Hospital of Colorado. Cassidie is also blessed to have personally experienced an adoption of her own in 2012, completing her family of five! Cassidie loves what she does as a case worker from initial phone calls, meetings, doctor appointments, interaction with the adoptive families to delivery and counseling. Cassidie has a passion for those in need and strives to help make a difference in the lives of the people she meets. She is a firm believer in being kind, compassionate and open minded in all situations. “Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, there’s no place for judgment. A kind word or compliment can go a long way!” The bittersweet moments in adoption reminds Cassidie each and every time, why she loves what she does!